Second wedding?

I think in the past, it was considered taboo to have a big wedding for a second marriage. Back in the day, people were oftentimes made to feel shameful about a failed marriage, so a lot of people didn’t have a big celebration for a second one for fear of judgement. Times have changed a lot since then though! Now people have big weddings for their second marriages – sometimes even bigger and more elaborate than their first ones since they are older, more established, more financially stable, and more sure they have found their lifetime partner. Definitely don’t feel embarrassed/ashamed that you didn’t find your perfect person the first time around. And definitely don’t deny yourself (or your partner) the wedding experience you want and deserve! Plan your dream wedding and enjoy every moment of it!

View Quoted Comment You made me tear up 😭 thank you so much! I needed to read that 💗

Pffffttttt.... girl, not sure if WW is going to pull this, but I say "screw 'em". Both hubs and I joke the Third time's the charm. We had a lovely wedding - white dress, flowers, dj , photographer --- the works. It WAS a celebration of (finally) finding our soul mates. The people who came were our biggest supporters during our dating time. You do you, and the heck with anyone who wants to make you feel shamed. They aren't your true friends.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! 😁 You're so right. To heck with them!

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You're so welcome! Enjoy planning, and if you ever have questions or just want to share planning details, this forum is a great place to do so!

You are more than entitled to celebrate and enjoy a second marriage in any way you wish. When you say your friends and family don't "support" you the same way are you referring to support for the marriage itself or for all the pre-wedding hoopla and traditions? Were any of those who seem less than enthusiastic in your bridal party or did they contribute generously the first time around? How long ago was that? Could they be hinting that it's a financial burden to do it all over again?

If it's the latter, then it may be that they are traditionalists who believe that gifts, showers, bridal parties and registries are more appropriate to a first wedding. There's definitely disagreement in the etiquette world on this, with contemporary sources saying go right and do it all up the same as you did the first time and more traditional sources cautioning you lest it be an imposition to any overlapping guests. Personally, I probably would not register, or accept a shower if the guest list includes those also invited to your first wedding, but that's me.