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Second wedding questions

Private User, on October 2, 2019 at 10:59 PM Posted in Planning 0 5

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I am 30 years old and my first marriage was 6 years ago. I don't have much family that is local so only my mom and sister came to my wedding shower for my first wedding. Can I have a second shower with my new friends and acquired family?

Also, it's my FHs first marriage so if I invite people from my side that sent gifts for my first wedding should I include a card that says your presence is our gift instead of a registry card?

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Latest activity by Kiley, on October 3, 2019 at 9:31 AM

Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on October 2, 2019 at 11:15 PM
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It’s perfectly fine to have a shower for your second wedding as long as someone offers to host one. You shouldn’t mention your registry in any wedding invitation, whether they came to your first wedding or not.
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on October 2, 2019 at 11:34 PM
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Yes that's perfectly fine !!
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Jeanie · on October 3, 2019 at 1:04 AM
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If someone wants to host a shower for you, and you are ok with having a shower, that is fine. If it is his first wedding, I imagine his family will want one for you. If that’s the case, I would at least consider inviting your family so they don’t hear about it afterwards and get upset. Even if they were at your first, they are still your family and shouldn’t be excluded simply because you had a prior marriage. As someone who is also getting married for the second time, I can tell you that we are often the ones who feel more awkward about the remarrying thing than anyone else. Most people, especially family, are just happy that we have finally found out happiness.
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Amanda · on October 3, 2019 at 7:13 AM
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This will not be my first marriage either but it will be my FH’s first (and planning on only) marriage. FMIL and my mom are co hosting a shower for me. My situation is slightly different, I got Married the first time at 21 and planned it in 8 weeks (I was Expecting) therefore I didn’t have a shower, Bachlorette party or even a proper proposal. Fast forward 14 years and I’m over the moon happy with FH and his family and we are doing all the things people usually do for their first wedding. Do let others deter your happiness, you deserve to be happy and enjoy this event also. Things happen and life can be unpredictable. Second, third or even tenth wedding (Liz Taylor style) love, live and enjoy your life and your journey. ❤️❤️
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Kiley · on October 3, 2019 at 9:31 AM
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This!!! It took me a solid 6 months of my engagement to realize that it's actually okay to get married again! I felt SOO guilty about my family traveling for another wedding, gifts, etc.. it was super awkward and I was trying to be a convenience to everyone.. constantly questioned what worked best for them or stated I could cover their costs for this or that... then finally I realized that it's okay!! I am happy now more than ever and they can either come or not, but it wasn't going to change how I felt... plus it saved me a lot of money, haha!
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