Jenny
Savvy April 2022

Second wedding guest list!

Jenny, on April 5, 2021 at 11:51 AM Posted in Planning 0 18
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Help! Fiancé and I are trying to decide where do you draw the line for guest for a second wedding? We’ve both been married before but he was small...mine too I guess. Do we this time around include aunts and uncles or just immediate family?

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Latest activity by Jenny, on April 6, 2021 at 1:14 PM
  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
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    This is 100% up to the two of you. My second wedding was larger than my first because my husband has a much larger extended family than my ex.
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  • Fred
    Expert April 2022
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    Hello Jenny:

    Immediate family with their partner and grandparents is the way to go if you really want a very intimate event. But:

    Are you close to the aunts and uncles? What about your closet friends: would you miss them if not invited?

    You should decide based on how you feel about them. Ultimately, it's 100% up to the two of you.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    It’s up to the two of you, just like any other wedding.
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  • Jenny
    Savvy April 2022
    Jenny ·
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    Thanks for replying! Thinking it’s going to be bigger than we originally thought!
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  • Jenny
    Savvy April 2022
    Jenny ·
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    Thanks for the response. I think we would miss them!
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  • Jenny
    Savvy April 2022
    Jenny ·
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    Thank you for your response! We thought we wanted small but now realize there’s more people than we thought lol
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  • Samantha
    Rockstar October 2022
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    Invite who you want! Really! Have a great party and share it with whoever is important to you!
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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    I agree that you should make your decisions based on what you and your future spouse want (and your budget), rather than on the fact that this is your second wedding and/or what people might think.

    The only time I have ever had negative feelings about a second wedding was my brother-in-law's. His first wedding was a huge, expensive destination wedding with lots of drama. His second wedding was less than 13 months later...and was also a huge, expensive destination wedding with lots of drama. I promise you, I will not attend his third wedding. Smiley xd

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  • Jenny
    Savvy April 2022
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    Oh boy! I can understand that for sure, we wanted to do a small destination wedding at first but not everyone we wanted would be able to travel so just keeping it local!
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  • Jenny
    Savvy April 2022
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    Thanks sweets!
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  • Samantha
    Rockstar October 2022
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    I’m 52, FH is 62 and we are inviting EVERYONE.
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  • E
    Expert July 2023
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    Agreed with Maggie. Gone are the days of "this is my second wedding so I don't deserve a full-scale event." If you want a 300-person, $100k blowout with a couture Vera Wang gown, you have it! Whatever suits your fancy, you should do. A wedding is a wedding, no matter what number it is for each of you.

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  • Jenny
    Savvy April 2022
    Jenny ·
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    ❤️ thanks for reply! Hope it’s magical!
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  • Jenny
    Savvy April 2022
    Jenny ·
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    Aww thanks so much! I can’t wait to plan this ❤️🥰
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  • Janae
    Dedicated April 2021
    Janae ·
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    This is completely up to the two of you. Can you take a look at your budget and figure out how much you want to spend and that can help you get an idea of how many people you want. Also think about what you really wished you would have done the first time or could have done without.
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  • Jenny
    Savvy April 2022
    Jenny ·
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    Great advice! Thanks!
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    Dedicated August 2023
    Heather ·
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    Don't differentiate this as a "second wedding". It's still a first wedding between the two of you. Invite anyone you want!
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  • Jenny
    Savvy April 2022
    Jenny ·
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    Aww love that! Thank you!
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