Help! Fiancé and I are trying to decide where do you draw the line for guest for a second wedding? We’ve both been married before but he was small...mine too I guess. Do we this time around include aunts and uncles or just immediate family?
I agree that you should make your decisions based on what you and your future spouse want (and your budget), rather than on the fact that this is your second wedding and/or what people might think.
The only time I have ever had negative feelings about a second wedding was my brother-in-law's. His first wedding was a huge, expensive destination wedding with lots of drama. His second wedding was less than 13 months later...and was also a huge, expensive destination wedding with lots of drama. I promise you, I will not attend his third wedding.
Agreed with Maggie. Gone are the days of "this is my second wedding so I don't deserve a full-scale event." If you want a 300-person, $100k blowout with a couture Vera Wang gown, you have it! Whatever suits your fancy, you should do. A wedding is a wedding, no matter what number it is for each of you.
This is completely up to the two of you. Can you take a look at your budget and figure out how much you want to spend and that can help you get an idea of how many people you want. Also think about what you really wished you would have done the first time or could have done without.