Second wedding etiquette

Nope. My wedding and I'm paying for it. I'm doing what I want to start my marriage off right with my new husband.

I think the people who are giving you advice sound misguided. Do what you want.

You're beginning a new chapter of your life, why limit what the beginning is written like?

Tell them to kindly take their opinions and shove them, that you're paying for it and you'll do as you please.

Best of luck!

I'm actually having a much more detailed wedding, but I'm not sweating the details so much. I know better now what I really want. I have also adopted a "meh" attitude when it comes stressing or fretting. I also hired a planner. I'm not doing the unity ceremony, I AM having someone else do as much as possible (hired help), and I am walking the aisle on my own. I am not being given away, but choosing to join on my own. I AM wearing ivory and a veil, I'm not stressing over cake, flowers, etc, but we are providing better food, better drink, and activities we know our friends like. I actually think this wedding will be better. I care less about making so many other people happy and more about what makes FH and I happy.

I think you should have the wedding of your dreams.

This is my 2nd wedding, FH's first. This time is much more elaborate for me and I'm thrilled! (When I'm not cursing about all there is to do lol)

Dear date twin.... Please have the wedding you want!!!! Congrats on finding love again after such tragedy. I hope your friends and family can see your happiness and will put away their emotional garbage & preconceived notions in order to support you on your day. Sending love & light to you!

Have the wedding of your dreams! Who cares if this is your 2nd marriage? This is your 1st wedding together, celebrate how you want. You deserve that!

My 2nd and FH'S 3rd. He wanted to just go to the courthouse. I felt like the celebration of our marriage was no less significant than that of previous relationships. We're having a small wedding and it's perfect for us.

Second wedding for both of us. We are having a big wedding--I didn't have one before; he did but had no input. I heard a lot of "stuff", too---"You should just go someplace and get married." "You're not wearing a gown, are you?" "I guess you'll keep it just close family." NOPE! I came here and got the same support you're getting, which really helped a lot. It's your wedding, make it the special day that you both deserve.

It never ceases to amaze me just how much people think their two cents is worth! As long as you are respectful of your guests it doesn't matter what you do! People can be so caddy!

It's still a wedding be it 1st, 2nd, or 10th. You go into every marriage hoping it will be your last and I see no reason whatsoever why you shouldn't treat it as just as special and important. If you want BMs, have them. If you want to wear white, do so (this one I hear a lot). Do whatever will make your wedding the best and happiest day for the two of you as a couple as well as enjoyable for your guests (though not saying to bend to silly judgments like have been mentioned)

I'm having planning my second wedding (in 3 weeks! Aah) and I'm wearing a white dress, having bridesmaids, DJ, dancing, etc. We're not doing a bouquet or garter toss- don't want to. My dad is escorting me down the aisle but not "giving me away." My friends threw me a shower and a bachelorette party. I didn't have these things for my first wedding. I probably would still have them now even if I did. This is our first wedding to each other.

Congratulations on your engagement and happy planning! Plan your special day to be perfect for you two.

Have the wedding you would like to have no matter if it's the first or twentieth. Do what you want

The only traditions I would skip because it's a second wedding are traditions I didn't like at my first wedding--and now am old enough and confident enough to skip.

This is my second wedding and his first. Honestly I think I impose more restrictions on myself than my family. That being said here is what I am not doing:

Not having my dad walk me down

Not having dancing, just dinner

No veil

Not having wedding pre-parties

Not having a registry

Only inviting less than 12 ppl

No bridal party

That being said I am:

Wearing white

Doing things my way

Having a great dinner and amazing flowers

Good for you for opening your heart and finding love again. Your day should be about you and your fiancé and nobody else's expectations.

I will tell you the same thing I was told when I asked the same question on this form, Do you, have the wedding you both want!

Thanks for all the support! Im glad to hear all this!

My second TH first. We are getting married in his hometown at his church. I am wearing white and a veil. We are having a bigger wedding trhan my first with the reception at one of the hotels in town. Since we are paying for it ourselves, we are tryng tto keep things simple and low cost. The school he works at is catering and I am having one of my FSIL help me with flowers. I haven!t chosen a maid/matron of honor yet but we are having a smallish wedding party my two sisters, his little sister and my daughter for my side, two brothers, a friend and nephew for his

I hear you, this is my second wedding too and I'm finding the same problems. My mom said things like "you can't have a shower again" or "you sure you want to do that?" But my first time I was 19 years old and planned the wedding in two weeks. This time I'm an adult, have a career and want to do it right! I think for you, do what I'm doing. Follow your heart and do what you've dreamed since you met this guy. I look forward to hearing what other advice you get here!

Do whatever u want girl! Its so beautiful that you have both found each other. A wedding is a wedding despite it being your second

We're both on our 2nd wedding. We're having a small afternoon ceremony with mostly just immediate family and close friends. Luncheon after.

I'm not wearing a white dress, but I would if I found one I like!

No BP, we are having our kids stand up. Not walking down the aisle, we're both just coming out of side doors.

But that's just us... I think you should do whatever you want!