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Just Said Yes March 2019

Second Wedding Bridesmaids/kids

Tami, on January 5, 2019 at 8:20 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 14

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Hello! This is our second marriage (not to each other - haha) and our children (two boys and two girls) will stand up with us at the ceremony. We have chosen to ask some very close friends to act as honorary bridesmaids and groomsmen, as our kids are only 5, 10, 12 and 12. We are taking pictures with these folks and I have asked the ladies to wear a dress of the same color as my girls. We are planning black dresses with vibrant flowers. My two little girls will have bouquets, but I would like for the honorary bridesmaids to have some sort of flowers. Maybe not the same size bouquet, but something appropriate and more than a corsage, like our mothers will wear. The groomsmen will have boutonnieres. What ideas might everyone have? We are also giving them a gift and planning a special event for them, so we just want to identify their significance in our lives at the event, as well, but having our kids stand with us is very important. Thank you!

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Latest activity by Christine, on January 6, 2019 at 12:45 PM

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earias · on January 5, 2019 at 8:36 PM
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I'm confused why you wouldn't just have them be bridesmaids and groomsmen? There really isn't such a thing as an "honorary" bridesmaid or groomsman especially when you're asking them to do everything the wedding party would do anyway (wear a certain color dress, take pictures with you and attend your wedding).
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Just Said Yes March 2019
Tami · on January 5, 2019 at 8:49 PM
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Our children are standing up with us, as they are the most important people in our lives. Had we not had kids, these people would have been our attendants. This is understood within our family and friend circle. That really wasn't part of my discussion. I was asking for ideas about flowers.
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Colleen · on January 5, 2019 at 9:17 PM
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I honey find nothing wrong with s courage that is what our grooms lady are having. I am just lost on what a homely bridesmaid is.
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Monica · on January 5, 2019 at 9:24 PM
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This will be our second marriage also. I have one daughter and my fiancé has two. Of course our children are our most important people, however we will not be having them act as bridesmaids or in the wedding party, per se. They’ll be involved in the ceremony - envisioning a unity candle to signify the joining of our families. We have our siblings and closest friends standing with us as our wedding party, which works for us. I’m unclear on what an “honorary” bridesmaid or groomsman actually means. Maybe you could include your children in the ceremony in some fashion but have those close adults be the actual bridesmaids and groomsmen?
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Tami · on January 5, 2019 at 9:29 PM
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So, the question really is not the role the people will play. That has already been decided, not just by us, but by the kids and also those people. The question is what sort of flowers should I have for my friends? Corsage? Small bouquet?
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Colleen · on January 5, 2019 at 9:37 PM
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I answered the question. Was just not sure what s honery brides maid is. I was not meaning to question your choice.
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Monica · on January 5, 2019 at 10:56 PM
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I have no idea, because I have no idea what sort of role an “honorary” wedding party member is supposed to play. Sorry. Good luck!
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Tami · on January 5, 2019 at 11:18 PM
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Thanks, everyone. I appreciate your input!
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Devoted June 2019
Katie M. · on January 5, 2019 at 11:22 PM
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Maybe a flower ball, lantern or sunflower? Pinterest has many alternative options for the flowers that might be a good choice.
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Lauren · on January 6, 2019 at 12:22 AM
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I was an honorary bridesmaid in a friend's wedding and we had small posy bouquets. Following the ceremony our bouquets were used as a part of the centerpieces at the reception! It was very thoughtful. I've attached a couple ideas.

I also think corsages would be nice! Maybe your mothers can wear pin-on corsages and the honorary bridesmaids could have larger wrist corsages?
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Tami · on January 6, 2019 at 9:10 AM
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That is a great idea. Those are beautiful!
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Ginsteeca · on January 6, 2019 at 12:29 PM
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I really love the look of small posies.
Maybe something with a single rose or tulip surrounded by baby's breath, an tied with a ribbon?
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Mcskipper · on January 6, 2019 at 12:40 PM
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I guess part of the issue is that we don’t quite know what the “honorary bridesmaids” are doing. Are they walking down the aisle then sitting ? Are they standing up with you? Are they doing no such thing but sitting like regulr guests maybe in a VIP area but you just want to do something to denote to the other guests that they are special?

the best flower move varies with each of those things. If they are there like regular guests but you want to mark them as special, I’d go for a corsage similar to what you would do for family. If they’re walking in the processional, I’d probably do a small posey bouquet for them to hold as they walk. But something simple and not fragile if they’ll be sitting during the ceremony and putting the bouquets down.
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Christine · on January 6, 2019 at 12:45 PM
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We both of two kids. Mine are giving me away/walking me down the aisle. Both sets will stand with us and groomsman bridesmaid attire. However we also have actual. Best man and Matron of honor standing with us. They'll sign off on our wedding and be our support beyond what our children should be providing.
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