Second wedding and future daughter-in-law

Its your wedding if you want her to be in the wedding congrats

Their marital status has nothing to do with your wedding. The future daughter in law? No. Many brides ask people out of obligation when they are not close to the person in question at all for fear of retaliation from other people whose opinions don't matter.


Your wedding party is those who are your nearest and dearest closest people. They are not random significant others, siblings, etc.
Contrary to popular belief, many people are not hurt if they are not asked to be bridesmaids because they don't want the responsibilities that go with it. Nearly always they prefer being just a guest which is a huge honor. Don't create made up roles either.

It's completely up to you. It's your wedding.

I have a very similar situation but the girl is a live in girlfriend that my FH's son can't do ANYTHING without. She isn't in our wedding but I am trying to find something special to include her. She will also be at our head table because again he won't eat with us if she isn't next to him. Maybe you can do something similar in your situation.

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That's completely up to you! You aren't obligated to have anyone in the wedding, this applies to family members blood or married as well.

I like Emily's suggestion. You don't have to have her in the wedding, but having the SOs sit with the bridal party would be nice.

My FH has been a groomsman for his three brothers. We weren't engaged, but had been dating for years and I wasn't included in the wedding party, or included in the wedding at all. Honestly, didn't hurt my feelings one bit lol. I'd feel the same way if we were engaged during all of those times. They just had me sit with my FH at the reception!

It’s comepletely normal to go to weddings where one person is in the wedding party and the date is not. Almost all weddings are like that. My husband wasn’t in my sister’s wedding, but I was MOH. We were just seated together and it was not a big deal

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I think it is nice she gets to watch, as long as you allow all wedding party SO to sit with the WP for dinner an the reception.

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