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Second Time or Older Brides

Courtney, on January 2, 2020 at 11:54 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 22
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I am really struggling with something here. I don't know if I should walk myself down the aisle or have my dad walk with me. I am a second time bride married before in 2009. I am 32 but do not have any children as I know some older brides have their son walk them down the aisle.


I just don't know what to do. My dad and I have a close relationship but he has already walked me down the aisle once. If he does walk me down the aisle, he will have to rent a tux which is $170.... this is the only cost I would ask of him. My FH and I are covering the cost of the entire wedding.
It is my FH's first wedding and when the topic came up when we went to look at tuxes, he just assumed my dad would walk me down.
I just really hate making decisions 😬. We are going to Disney for our honeymoon and we went to 4 different stores yesterday before I finally decided which shoes I wanted to go with lol.

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Latest activity by Sara, on April 12, 2020 at 11:21 PM
  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    In my opinion just because you are a second time bride doesn't mean that you don't deserve a nice wedding day. I have a couple of friends just like you got remarried in their thirties and they still gave themselves a wedding. Maybe they did not spend as much as the first one but they still wore a wedding dress and had their father or stepfather walk them down the aisle. I would just suggest that if your father walks you down the aisle can he just wear a suit that he already has? He doesn't need to pay for a tuxedo rather just wear a nice three piece suit. What are your thoughts?
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  • C
    Devoted April 2020
    Courtney ·
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    Yeah well he doesn't have a nice suit.... would it look okay to wear nice clothes like a dress shirt and slacks? I dont know 🤷‍♀️
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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    Of course. Do what you want. No one is going to judge and if they do screw them! Lol. I think it would be great to have him walk you. At best find a nice jacket on sale at Burlington coat factory.
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  • Danica
    Devoted November 2020
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    I am a second time bride, at 41, and even though my dad walked me down the aisle for my first wedding, he is walking me down for this wedding. He actually asked if he could. I feel that depending on your relationship with your father, no matter how many weddings you have, if he wants to, he should be able to walk you down as many aisles as he wants.

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  • Virginia
    Super June 2021
    Virginia ·
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    This is a second wedding for me. My 11 year old son will be walking me down the aisle.

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  • W-K
    Super October 2019
    W-K ·
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    This was my second wedding (third ceremony, yikes) and I had my dad walk me down the aisle. I just had him wear a nice suit. Suit rentals are typically cheaper than tux rentals.

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  • C
    Devoted April 2020
    Courtney ·
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    Can you rent a suit like at the same place you get a tux from?
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  • W-K
    Super October 2019
    W-K ·
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    Usually! We were looking at Men's Warehouse for both before we decided to do neither.

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  • C
    Devoted April 2020
    Courtney ·
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    Okay I will check into that!
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  • Cherry
    Expert February 2020
    Cherry ·
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    I'm a first-time bride but I'm 34, and my father passed when I was 14.


    I'm walking with my FH. We're going together, hand-in-hand. Another woman here who recently lost her father is going halfway down the aisle on her own and her FH is meeting her and walking her the other half.


    I would ask your dad first if he wants to walk you down the aisle, and if he does, then you can have him wear whatever you want - it doesn't have to be a tux. (And remember you could potentially find a tux or suit at a thrift store and have it tailored, which could be a very inexpensive option if you absolutely must have him in one.) And if he doesn't think it's appropriate to give you away, then you can make a decision from there on what you want to do.


    Also, it's your FH's first wedding and if he's picturing your dad doing it, then that's something to take into consideration, too. He might have a vision in his mind of how you'll come down the aisle. Smiley heart

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  • C
    Devoted April 2020
    Courtney ·
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    True. When we talked about it, I made the suggestion that maybe he could just walk me down the aisle, but skip that whole thing about who gives this bride away.... his sister was married twice and he said her dad (they have different dads) walked her down the aisle both times.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    My first wedding but as a 40+ bride I didn’t feel the need to be walked down/given away. My hubby & I walked together and it calmed our nerves!


    What do you WANT to do? Walk with your dad? Alone? With your fiancé? It’s up to you. 💕
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  • Ingrid
    VIP October 2020
    Ingrid ·
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    It's a matter of preference not how many times you've been married. Go with what's natural to you.
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  • Latonya
    Devoted April 2021
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    This is my first wedding and i am having my pop escort me. It is something he has always wanted to do, but because I am 40 (i'll be 42 by the time the wedding comes around) i am having my son (who is the officiant) skip over the line "who gives this woman away". Plus we will also be already legally married.

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  • Julie
    Savvy September 2020
    Julie ·
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    As a second time bride whose father has past i would be honored to have my dad walk me down the aisle regardless of the number of times. Its a blessing and a honor to have your dad/father/step father etc walk you down the aisle.

    Since my dad past 6 years ago i will walk myself down and to include him I am using one of his favorite neckties to wrap my bouquet which will also include a pin charm with his picture along with a piece of jewelry from my grandmothers.

    Never miss the opportunity to spend a very special moment or event with your love ones.

    Julie

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  • Katharine
    Expert July 2021
    Katharine ·
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    I think it's really up to you. I was debating on this myself (also a 2nd time bride), until I found out my dad wouldn't be able to travel to the wedding due to a sudden medical condition. I was far more upset about it than I expected to be, as I'm very close with my dad. So, now I'm probably going to ask my mom to walk me down instead (my parents are divorced).

    If we end up having to reschedule and dad is healthy enough, I will definitely have him walk me down. I don't view it as being given away. I'm grown ass woman and I give myself away, thank you very much, lol. I see it as a gesture of support and a show of love.

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  • Katharine
    Expert July 2021
    Katharine ·
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    Oooooh, I rather like this idea as an alternative! I might talk with my FH about this possibility and see what he thinks.

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    Savvy October 2021
    Christina ·
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    I am a second time bride and it never crossed my mind of my dad not walking me down the aisle until I read your post. It is your day and your relationship. You should do whatever makes you happy on your wedding day. The people who will join you love you and will be happy for you either way. Follow your heart and be happy!!

    Dad can wear a nice suit if he has it or church outfit. He will be happy walking his baby down the aisle. Best of luck!

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  • Jyl
    Savvy June 2020
    Jyl ·
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    I'm an older second time bride. Since my FH asked my father back when we were children and again. After we reconnected my dad will be walking me down the isle along with my adult son.
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    Dedicated August 2021
    Salem ·
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    I think if it’s importanf to you he should walk you down the aisle. Your past and first wedding should have no impact on your decisions with this wedding. It’s a new chapter and deserves to be celebrated!
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