Second Time Around

*first, not cost

I absolutely agree with you. You deserve all the fun and happiness that a wedding entails.

I can’t believe she would say that. You are celebrating a new life and you should have everything everyone else does. This is my fiances third engagement, second marriage but first wedding. And it’s my second engagement but first wedding and marriage. Life happens and the important thing is to move forward and be happy!

I totally get where you’re coming from. This will be my third marriage and FHs second. My mom said “why are you having a wedding? Just go to the courthouse and get it over with”. Ugh. I am finally marrying the love of my life and she just wants us to “get it over with”??? No.

I’ve had both a big church wedding and a small home wedding, FH went to the courthouse when he got married before. We thought about eloping but we really want to celebrate with family and friends and decided on a destination wedding in Vegas. The great thing about getting married a little later in life is that we can afford to do what we want, and don’t really care what others think.

enjoy your wedding and do whatever YOU and your FH want to do!

It was a 2nd marriage for both of us and we went all out. I did so much more for this wedding than I did for the first such as having my dress and veil custom made, having live musicians for the ceremony and cocktail hour and two bands for the reception. I can go on but you get the point. Do what you want and enjoy this new chapter in your life together. And yes, if your loved ones want to throw you a shower let them and enjoy registering for it and if they want to give you a bachelorette party let them. Enjoy!

This is a new relationship with a new man why shouldn't you have a new, awesome wedding to kick off your marriage? I'm sorry your mom said that to you - don't listen to her and have whatever wedding you want!

I've has multiple people say that to me. I got so sick of hearing it. My response was this "so you are saying that our love for each other and us finally finding our soulmate doesn't deserve a celebration" most people just looked sheepishly after that and said no that's not what I meant. But it is and people are just rude. Besides FH and I are the only ones paying for this wedding.

Sorry you had to hear that . its your day. This is my 2nd was married happily 38yrs til he passed. We had a military base wedding before he left.
FH this is his 1st no prior anything so we are going all out . anyone that doesnt like it i dont care. He deserves it. He has waited for this day. Its your life your expense . Enjoy

My mom said the same thing. FH and I disagree and are paying so we are proceeding as if the comment was never made. When we see her having a blast we’ll know that we did the right thing.

We are in the middle of planning our "Take Two" wedding. We are going with the traditional church wedding ceremony, and a more relaxed reception. My dress is much more casual than my first wedding, and he is not wearing a tux, but slacks and shirt. We are asking our male guests not to wear ties or jackets, and women a sundress is just fine. We both feel that most of these people were at our first weddings and did not want them to spend money again on something high priced to wear. We are paying for it ourselves, and we are doing it our way. Our goal is to make it a day that is special to us, and hopefully fun for our guests. A day to always remember.

That is a terrible thing to say, I am sorry It is FH's second and my first, and his first was a long time ago and they divorced long ago, so we are going all out. He was young when he married her, and we are both in our 40s now. I am actually happy I waited this long since I've seen so many of my friends marry and divorce when they were younger. I think we just KNOW now, and my mom and dad are thrilled! They've never even mentioned his first marriage because who cares? It was in the past and it's behind him....

I'm so sorry your mom said that to you. My mother would likely have said the same thing if FH and I weren't doing a small wedding. You have every right to feel hurt. But guess what? You also have every right to celebrate how you want as well!

Even though our wedding will be small in numbers, we are going all out. Great food, fabulous wine, location to die for. It might end up costing us about the same as the 200+ person wedding they threw for my ex and I, 20 years ago. But here is the thing....this is all about us! We can afford to do whatever we want. I don't really discuss things with her anymore. FH and I are doing what we want and I am so happy to be his wife!

Best of luck planning your special day!