Second Time Around for Bride; First for Groom

A friend of mine had her second wedding recently, and actually planned it on a boat because her husband wanted something spectacular, and she really didn't...but getting married on a boat was cool!

Same situation here. Surprisingly no one seems weirded out by all the fuss and hoopla except me. I'm doing what "feels" right.

FH has a crazy long guest list, and I was a lot more selective. I've tried to scale back in other ways too. Smaller wedding party, simpler flowers/bouquets.

I'm wearing a gold MOB gown. I felt like a cupcake in white pouffy gowns.

Heck, I just had my third wedding, his first. My first wedding was a small in home wedding with 75 people and a very pregnant bride. My second was a big white catholic wedding. This time it was an amazing dw in the mountains. There is no ettiquette, do what you feel comfortable with.

It is after all your first marriage to your fh.

My FH is a second time groom and he is opting for a small or even a courthouse wedding while I'm a first time bride wanting a family/friends wedding! I don't think there's an etiquette...my friends a second time bride and she had a big wedding as well and she's getting married in December with another wedding and she had the same reservations you had...but her family was very supportive of her choice and thus she had fun throwing a second big wedding...

Just to clarify, by putting my family out I don't mean asking then for help with finances. I paid for my shot gun wedding and had some help from my dad with the church blessing and reception.

Put out I meant what it costs them to attend. Dresses, hair, make up, gift, etc.

I never had an bridal party, engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette parties or anything of the sort, and didn't really plan on any of that this time either.

I guess I'm afraid of inconveniencing them, and I know they'll talk about me. I prob shouldn't care, but my fam is what they are and that's not going to change, lol. Can't pick em, just hafta live with em!!

I like the idea of a boat wedding. I wanted to go to the Florida keys for the wedding, but he wants the kids to be there. Uggh, decisions, decisions. ..

I was hesitant to ask my sister to be MOH. She had stood up for me once for a marriage that ended in divorce, paid for an expensive dress she wore once...she was so excited when I asked her again though (at my mom's urging).

I went shopping with my sister and told her to get whatever dress she liked in plum. She still opted to spend $150 which I don't consider cheap.

I think people get how great FH and I are together, because like I said nobody else seems to feel any of this is too much or awkward, except me.

I still just want it over. 177 days and I can settle into a (hopefully) quiet life and mundane routine with FH.

I thought my family would feel the same (my second, FH first) but they don't.

They want us to be happy and have the wedding we (especially FH) want. (even my first husband's family feel the same)

It will still be around the same reasonable size (it will be smaller mainly because FHhas a smaller family than my first husband, but we have collected more friends between us now)

Some things are different but that is because I have changed in 12 years and FH is a different man.

I was the same about not wanting to make a massive faux pas but it seems that the old etiquette rules aren't really used anymore (like no veil, pastel colors, smaller)

From talking to my family, they all wanted me to find love again and get married (again) they like a good wedding, and the things that go along with it.

(That is not really a hard and fast rule @Lynzey - my FutureILs are giving us a very large chunk of money for the wedding (we didn't ask) it is their son's wedding)