Second Marriages

This is my first marriage but my husband's second. We started dating in April 2015, moved in together in April 2017, got engaged in April 2018, and got married November 2019. I was ready to get married sooner but he wanted to wait and make sure it was right. I completely understand but it was still hard to wait.

It depends. I know some of my friends when older did not want to waste time. Just make sure you know a lot about the person...that is really the only factor I have seen been hard in the marriage is not so much the length of dating rather time to make sure outside factors (kids from other relationships or etc...) affect the couples relationship. It is hard to set a time limit and you need to do what is best for you but I would be sure of those factors.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! It is hard to wait. We were planning to get married around our 1 year anniversary. Too soon?


Are you happy you guys waited?

View Quoted Comment Love that advice!! Thank you!!

Im not on my second marriage but my sister is and you can literally tell how much of a happier of person she became when she met my brother in law. At that point it didn’t matter the amount of time when you could see the way they made each other feel ❤️Don’t let people try to put a timeline on when you can and can’t do something, if you love someone you know, not them! Congrats girl!!

So it really depends on a lot. This is my second marriage and my husband's first. My first marriage I do think I rushed in (married within a year of meeting. His second marriage, my first). I truly believe that had I gotten to know him more, I wouldn't have made that mistake. My current husband and I got married in February. At that point we'd been together 2 1/2 years. He proposed at about 1 1/2 years. He wanted to make sure everything was right. We moved in together soon after dating, so we'd been living together nearly as long. I think that's the game changer. That first year was really hard. We had bumps in learning to live together. But we really knew each other before we got engaged.

Don't pay attention to anyone. Live your life and and if you know, then you know. I filed for divorce in 2017 and unexpectedly started dating my FH (who I met in college) before my divorce was final in 2018. FH proposed late 2018 and our wedding was supposed to be next month but it's now in February.

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I can't judge if 1 year is too soon for your relationship because everyone is different. As for me personally, I've dated guys who I wanted to marry at a year, but later I was so glad we didn't get that far because we weren't right for each other. I was engaged when I was younger and I'm glad I broke it off because my husband is so much better for me than that guy. And he is happily married to someone else too. I will say based on my past experiences I would never marry someone without living with them first. You really do not know someone until you live with them full time for 6 months-ish. I've lived with 3 boyfriends including my husband, and staying over every night is not the same. Even with my husband it was difficult but I'm glad I stuck it out. I've always really loved him but there were things I thought maybe I couldn't handle and it was a hard road. But now we've lived together 3 years and we're so happy. I wanted to get engaged after 2 years and have a 1 year engagement, instead of 3 years plus 20 months engaged. We had a bad situation at the 1 year mark that I never would have predicted and it took some time to recover. The engagement certainly dragged. Now we've been married for 8 months and we've been completely happy. The time has flown by. My husband dated his ex-wife for 3 years before they got married and she left him at six months. He was also engaged for 1-2 months to a girl he had dated for 4 months, but he broke it off because he felt they were toxic together. I'm the only one he lived with first before getting engaged. Sorry for the novel but I wanted to share and hopefully it helps your thought process. Good luck and best wishes!

Ok, so this is my 3rd marriage and fiance 2nd. My 2st marriage I was married with in 4 months of dating (we were best friends) 2nd we were engaged by 6 months and married 1.5 after we started dating. After that divorce I made a promise I would not marry before 5 years. My fiance and I have been together 6 years and will be married 1.5 months shy of 7 years.


It's all in one's preference and if yall feel its right.

It's hard for other people to speak other than their experience. I'm sure for you, you'd need to think about whether timing was a factor in your first marriage or whether it was really unavoidable/ unpredictable.
I am glad I had a few years of being an adult on my own (Independent of my parents, etc.) before dating seriously, and very glad I dated a lot before meeting my person, and glad we waited about 5 years to move in and now we'll be together 10 years.
If I were single that whole time/ dating around, maybe we'd move more quickly? We aren't interested in having kids, do that hasn't rushed things either. There's probably a lot of factors to think about in whether more time makes any difference.

This will be my first but my FH’s second. We will be together 5 years in October. Getting married in August.

This is my 3rd marriage & my FH’s 1st. My 1st marriage, I was way too young & my 2nd ended with him being physically & emotionally abusive. My FH & I were together for 11 yrs, broke it off & were apart for 6 yrs. We rekindled our romance back in 2016 & he proposed in 2019. We discussed marriage & we knew this was it for us. We did get some flack from some family members but knew we are meant to be together. We’re getting married on 4/3/21! He’s the 1 for me, he’s always been the one...

View Quoted Comment Awe I love this!! Thank you so much! Congrats to you too! And I’m so happy for your sister! I feel the same way! 💖

This is my first time getting married but wanted to say that the spelling of your name is unique and I’m in love ❤️ Never seen it spelled like that super dope 💛

This is my second marriage and my fiance's first. We became official in 2016, engaged in 2017 and we're getting married in October.

Everyone’s different and the timing really depends on you!

For us I knew the first year we were together that I wanted to marry him. For him it took more time to feel comfortable and confident in reaching that decision as his last girlfriend left as he was about to propose. So I’ve been patiently waiting for the right time

We’ll be together 6 years this upcoming October.

Are you saying you want to get married on your one-year dating anniversary?

It is up to you how to live your life, but I would be careful if I were you, especially as you've been married before.

I just married for the second time. We met while I was still in the process of getting divorced and dated for 2.5 years before getting engaged, and just got married last weekend, a couple months out from 4 years of being together. In my situation, I was not ready to move any faster than than (even though he was) and he was patient enough to give me time to be ready to move forward.

I would say if you just recently got divorced, then it's probably wise to go a little slower. If you're already engaged, set your date out a year or two to make sure you're not rushing into something new just to avoid being alone. If your divorce was a year or more in the past when you met this new guy and you had some time on your own to process being on your own, then I don't see why you need to slow down.

That being said, if everyone you know is cautioning you, these people know you better than strangers online, and it might be wise to talk to a counselor to make sure you're not rushing for some reason that you're not consciously aware of.

2nd wedding for both of us. Here is our timeline:

Met: August 2014

Engaged: June 2018

Wedding: April 2020 (canceled)

Wedding: August 2020 (canceled

Wedding: April 2021