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Second Marriage- Who Do i Have To Invite?!

Paige, on May 11, 2018 at 10:31 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 3

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My first marriage was an elopement including immediate family and no friends. Reception was a dinner with no dancing. My fiance has never been married before and wants us to have a traditional wedding. I do too since I missed out on a lot of the fun things by being a young military bride. I have a lot of family (cousins, aunts uncles, etc) like i have 15 first cousins and some of them are married. My fiance, on the other hand doesn't have much family but a lot of friends. I would really like to have a wedding with my immediate family and all of my friends. I dont want to invite some of my extended family and cousins because frankly they annoy me, are rude and i dont like them. We wont be asking for gifts since this is my second marriage but the bottom line is:
Can I get away with not inviting extended family members to my wedding?!

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Latest activity by Jennifer, on May 11, 2018 at 11:59 AM

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Megan · on May 11, 2018 at 10:39 AM
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Absolutely! It's your day do what you want! It's also a second wedding for both FH and I and we are not inviting extended family. I'm not even inviting all my aunt's and uncles. They are way older then my mom and I am not close with them and don't feel I should have to invite them.
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Daria · on May 11, 2018 at 10:48 AM
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You can invite or not invite whoever you like. It will be easier to explain if you invite in circles. For example, you may experience some drama if you invite some cousins but not others. That might or might not matter to you. But the best way to deal with hurt feelings from those not invited is to claim that due to space restrictions, you had to draw the line at X.
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OrangeCrush · on May 11, 2018 at 11:49 AM
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I agree with previous poster plus this was my second wedding, my hubby's first as well. We had to cap at 50 and we invited who we wanted yet in circle, like mentioned above. We invited close friends plus SO's, immediate family plus SO's, and cousins (on my side, he has one, and he was Best Man.) I only invited cousins/siblings in the same family. I have one sect whom I love but we had to cap, they live kinda far and we don't socialize much as adults.
We did not register and yes I wore white, lol.
So yes, you can get away with not inviting extended family to your wedding.
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Jennifer · on May 11, 2018 at 11:59 AM
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I am in the exact same boat as you, it's like you are writing our story too. We did not invite my side extended family, his guest list was long enough! There are not many people who will get offending or think twice on my side though we are not a close knit family.
I am wearing ivory but I would have worn white if I found a white dress I liked.
Happy planning!
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