Second Marriage - Bridal Shower

This is my second wedding, my FH's first. We are doing a registry, and my FMIL is throwing us a small couples' shower. I researched pretty carefully and couldn't find anything saying these things are against etiquette.

Don't put anything about gifts on invitations. That is against etiquette.

As far as a registry, you're getting married, who cares, go register. You aren't forcing people to buy you anything, its there as a guide if they so choose to. Concerning a shower, if someone offers to throw one, let them, unless you yourself feel uncomfortable about it, politely decline. Otherwise a couples shower might be nice to include FH in the festivities as well.

If you don't register at all, most will give a check or cash in a card at the wedding.

It would be worse to say "no gifts" than to register for a second time shower. You don't mention gifts, period. If people WANT to give you a gift, they will seek out the registry.

Tell your dad we said it's ok. You can show him this, if you want.

I personally would not have a shower for a second wedding and invite the same people. I don't think that is reasonable. Why not have one just for your fiance's side and the VIPs like your mom and bridesmaids? Or why not have a luncheon instead of a shower- a shower is for gifts.

I specifically asked my MOH not to throw me a bridal shower. This is also my second marriage and my fiance's first.

2nd marriage for both us and no one even thought twice about throwing us a shower. Your loved ones want to celebrate YOU and not count how many marriages this is. Also, as other PPs have said, it is more rude to specify anything about gifts on your invitations.

My friends got married - the wife already has a child. They are expecting their first child at the end of May. I completely expected his side to throw a shower because it's THEIR first grandchild to be born. My husband was married before. It is my first marriage. We still invited his family to the shower that was thrown for me (actually, his mother contributed so we could include his side).

I think the fact that he was married before did affect the amount some of his family gifted for the wedding, but most still did gift. Because they wanted to do so.

Please don't write "no gifts". It's actually poor etiquette to say anything about gifts on an invite even if you are just saying you don't want any because that indicates you assume people would get you one. It's a bit round about, but you don't need to say that. People will gift if they would like and you should accept graciously and write a lovely thank you note in a timely manner and that's about it.