Second marriage and a bridal shower?

I don’t see anything wrong with having a shower in your situation.

This is my second marriage and I am not having a bridal shower. I didn’t have a bridal shower with my first marriage. If I’d had one previously, I would be embarrassed asking everyone to give me gifts again. But that’s just me, I get anxious and embarrassed easily 🤷🏼‍♀️

I'd do a tea or luncheon. Not a shower

There's nothing wrong with having a shower no matter what number wedding this is. Your loved ones want to celebrate your wedding. Showers are thrown by your loved ones as a way to celebrate and if they felt uncomfortable with the idea of a shower they wouldn't offer to throw the shower. Our friends and family threw us a couple's shower even though it was a second marriage for both of us.

I guess I’d also have to take into consideration how long it’s been since your last bridal shower. If it was 15 years ago, thats a lot different than if it were two years ago. It also depends on what kind of family/friends you have. Mine are very traditional. No baby showers after first baby, no bridal showers after first marriage LOL. So it’s very situational I suppose.

Well if your MOH wants to throw you a shower I don’t really see why you can’t have one just because you were previously married. As I see it, if you can have a second wedding, then you can have a second shower. But yes I agree with another post here that the time kind of does matter. If your last shower was only like two years ago then maybe it’s better to skip it this time, but if it’s been a few years I don’t see why not.

You can have a shower. I would suggest avoiding those who attended the first shower and gave a gift then. They already helped you set up a household.

Or, you could do as Cuoghi suggested and have a luncheon, no gifts expected.

If someone wants to throw you one then go for it. This is my 2nd wedding and I'm not having a shower but that's because no one is throwing one lol. I literally just asked my cousin to be a BM and she's the only one and I told her all I need from her is to wear purple and converse. We don't need anything and I disperse being the center of attention anyways.

Have a shower....you are celebrating your new relationship and deserve the same parties and activities as any other bride. If someone else feels that because this is your second marriage you shouldn't have a shower then they dont have to have one....enjoy!

I wouldn't feel comfortable in your situation having a shower. Showers are to help set up your home. Besides the fact that people already helped you do that once, I am presuming that you have a home set up. I would feel more comfortable suggesting a non gift-giving event like a brunch, luncheon or afternoon tea, if it is the social aspect that you want.

You already said no and you had a shower previously. I would skip it unless his family wanted to do something since he's never been married. I don't do subsequent showers or bachelorette parties. I had a relative have 3 weddings in 7 years. I didn't attend all of those parties.

I don’t see anything wrong with having a second wedding shower. You are celebrating your new life together. If your friends and family want to throw one go and enjoy it.

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As an honest question, how many weddings and showers would you attend for one person? I think helping set up their household once is enough. After 2, 3, 4 showers it starts to feel like they are greedy.

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I agree, this was my second marriage (his first) and I had no shower only because my sons were my Best Men and I had no bridesmaids!!! But if a girlfriend had offered I would have been flattered and said yes. People like to celebrate new beginnings!!!

Enjoy!

I was married 13.5 years ago. I’ve been divorced 7. Only 2 or 3 of my girlfriends would have been to both if we did have a second shower. I’m on the fence. I may just forget the whole idea. However, I will have a bachelorette party. My MOH has already starting planning and I didn’t have one the first time around. I’m due!

As as far as the shower- I think it’s a matter of what we are comfortable with. We will shelf it for now and revisit it later.

Thanks for the input.

If someone wants to throw you a shower and you want it as well, then why not? If you’re not comfortable getting gifts, or don’t need/want anything, you could just do something like a lunch or dinner, specifying no gifts.

As a guest, I would attend a second bridal shower. I think it’s the 3rd or 4th showers that I’d probably decline.

I got married 16 years ago, when I was young, at the court house with no "real" wedding and no shower of any kind. I have been divorced now 4 years and I am getting married again this October. I am having a shower but my parents are no please because this is a second marriage. To me, however, I feel like a First Time Bride - because I am doing everything by the book. We are having he big wedding with 300 guests. I don't feel that having a bridal shower this time around is wrong. I have a home and it is set up but it was not set up by a bridal shower from my first wedding. Have your shower if your MOH wants to give you one. Celebrate this relationship and enjoy every aspect as if it was your first time around.