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Second hair trial disaster..

Aleah, on September 25, 2019 at 4:05 AM Posted in Hair and Makeup 0 20

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So as recommended I did a second hair trial. The first one was beautiful to me and I loved it but it didn’t last long (45 mins) then fell out. So she said hot rollers would hold curls. I wanted loose curls and to do the first photo but to stay longer, well, that did NOT work out. It was a mess.

First hair trial (one with braid).
And.. second hair trial. (One that makes my hair look 7 inches shorter, not loose at all and has a brass look). (Ignore my gross back guys lol, I was in my pjs for this she came to my house).

You couldnt do anything with this no braid no nothing, it was hard and felt like wire. I sat under this machine for 2 hours and 20 minutes + the hour of her rolling my hair up and pinning (ouuuch) but sitting in the same position with my head in a bad position was so much worse. I couldn’t turn my neck after 😬
All in all, I hated it, absolutely, no doubt at all, hated it. I immediately washed my hair very well and am not sure what to do, I’m worried the curls won’t last or she’ll do something that ends up disastrous on my wedding day when I don’t have time to shower and all that again to retry. And I can’t afford to keep paying for trials it’s 25$ each time, and 40$ for the wedding day. The first time she forgot some of her stuff so she “couldn’t do it the way she would” and the second time she forgot something that would’ve dried my hair without breaking my neck, so both times she was unprepared, what is she’s unprepared on my wedding day, her house is an hour away and she had plenty of time to think ahead and get the stuff. I don’t know what to do. My mother chose her and invited her to the wedding without my saying so I feel almost obligated to let her do my hair, I don’t know what to do, my mom has a habit of waiting until the last minute to plan things (in instance I’m not getting a bridal shower because it’s too late now apparently and she’s had 6 months, but I’m appreciative for what she has done non the less just a bummer). I can’t plan and do everything myself, I really need her help I don’t really have anyone else but she doesn’t prioritize my needs and she always says things will work out (which sounds confident and sweet) but when things aren’t getting done and being put off till last minute that doesn’t always work out, and I have seen that happen many many times. I just needed to vent about this, I don’t have many people that understand I’m not trying to be selfish and rude, I just had a little dream and a little expectation and it bummed me out, doesn’t mean I’m unappreciative.

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Latest activity by Natalie, on October 24, 2019 at 12:02 PM

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H · on September 25, 2019 at 7:15 AM
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I would kindly tell her that you appreciate her efforts but it's just not going to work out. You have a vision. Don't let your mom choosing her make you feel obligated or selfish for wanting to go with someone else. You want to feel beautiful on one of the most magical days of your life. If she's not fulfilling that, no hard feelings, you just need to find someone else who can.
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Paige · on September 25, 2019 at 7:56 AM
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Agree with the PP. I would look for someone else to do it. It doesn’t seem like she is getting your vision. Another thing to think about, since your hair fell out quickly, is doing some sort of updo for the ceremony and taking it down for the reception.
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Amber · on September 25, 2019 at 8:23 AM
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If she isn't willing to work with you in getting HER work to come out good enough for a client without charging you every single time, I would definitely find someone else. I understand the initial situation if it doesn't turn out right, but considering she "forgot some of her stuff" and wasn't even giving you an actual trial of how she planned to do it the day of then charged you for ANOTHER trial and it still isn't right, she should be trying to rectify the situation if she takes any pride in her work.
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Alejandra · on September 25, 2019 at 8:34 AM
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I would explain to her that both times she has been unprepared (and therefore unprofessional) and that she’s been compensated both times for her services. Explain that you want a third and final trial (ideally free of charge, but certainly discounted) with all the stuff she would need on the day of. Remind her that she’s always had stuff missing and that you, as a paying client, need to know this is someone who takes you seriously and understands what you want. If, after that last trial, you’re not happy, let her go and find someone else. I know it’s hard to do everything yourself but this is also your hair, and your look, and your vision. Don’t let anyone ruin that. Best of luck
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Cyndy · on September 25, 2019 at 8:42 AM
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I agree with PP that I would find someone else. If she can’t give you what you want then find someone who can. She should understand.
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Allison · on September 25, 2019 at 8:43 AM
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I'm sorry this is happening to you, but I would choose someone else. This is exactly why I'm planning everything myself because no one gets things done like you can yourself. I would research hairdressers who do updos and you may need to pay more than $40 I'm paying $85 for my wedding hair and I'm not saying you need to pay that much but you do get what you pay for sometimes.

But most importantly, take a deep breath, you do have some times and with the right stylist it will work out.
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W-K · on September 25, 2019 at 8:47 AM
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I would tell her nicely that you're going to go with someone else. Looking at your hair, though, it looks the same texture as mine. My curls usually fall out within an hour or so but will stay all day if I use a pin curl method in that loose way you want them to. I hate hot rollers, they're stupid lol.
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FutureMrsC · on September 25, 2019 at 9:02 AM
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I agree that I would kindly tell her I am going with someone else. She forgot important items that were required to do your hair properly TWICE. she doesn't sound like a seasoned professional to me. $40 is a steal, I'm paying almost 4x that amount, but sometimes you get what you pay for. It's YOUR wedding day. don't let anyone (not even your mother) ruin your hair on a day that you are supposed to feel beautiful.
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· on September 25, 2019 at 9:13 AM
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I agree ! You need to trust and feel confident with your stylist — I would look around
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FutureMrsKC · on September 25, 2019 at 9:14 AM
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I'm so sorry you've been let down both times. I had hair struggles too, so I understand being nervous. But, you get what you pay for. $40 is VERY cheap for wedding hair. She sounds like a freelancer (i.e. not tied to a salon?) Not sure, just assuming. I'd look for someone else, even if you have to pay more. She had 2 chances, and you were unhappy. I'd move on and find someone else.No harm no foul, she's a professional she will understand.
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Valencia · on September 25, 2019 at 9:18 AM
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Not being mean but you do get what you pay for... using rollers will hold your curls longer but I would advise to set your hair the day before if using rollers to give your curls time to “loosen”... honestly tho I would suggest getting a different stylist... i wouldn’t be rude about it just politely let her know that you are no longer requiring her services... sounds like she needs more practice heads before trying to do a wedding..
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Melle · on September 25, 2019 at 10:50 AM
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Yea I think it's time to get someone else to do it.
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MrsD · on September 25, 2019 at 11:22 AM
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I would probably just let her know you are going to use someone else. It's your mom's problem she invited her, you didn't. You should have a well-reviewed stylist you are happy with.
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Aleah · on September 25, 2019 at 12:32 PM
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This is most likely what will happen, I’ve never been good at telling people what I want but I’ve came out my shell a lot since it’s my wedding, and it’s the first time I’ve really came out and straight up told people what I want and when they did something different it just made me feel hopeless. She isn’t tied to a salon (she use to be) so it’s more of a hobby for her. I don’t know if she takes it seriously.
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Aleah · on September 25, 2019 at 12:40 PM
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She is working freelance, she quit her salon job but still does a lot of hair, she went to school for it. She has done good jobs I’ve seen photos and reviews but this time it was a hot mess, and I sat under that thing for so long because it was like warm air not hot or anything it took forever to dry, my hair was so brass like when I touched it it sounded like plastic. The lady left she didn’t take the rollers out she had things to do.. My mom took them out, tried to work with it and calm it but couldn’t. I’m gonna go around salons and see if I can find someone who can do it the way I want. We were trying to spend the least money so that we would have enough for other things. Our budget is well below average, we’ve only spent 3500$ my wedding is next month, it’s much lower than everyone else I’ve talked to but it’s what we can afford at the moment without taking a loan out lol.
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Desiree · on September 25, 2019 at 12:51 PM
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Honestly if you’re happy with just doing curls I’d just do it myself and try different techniques to see how to get your curls to last the longest. I have better curls when my hair wasn’t freshly washed and it’s been at least a day or two
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J · on September 25, 2019 at 1:02 PM
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Yikes girl. I'm so sorry. It definitely seems like you should move on with a new hairdresser. It is an awkward situation since your mom already invited her, but maybe you just need to flat out say "this isn't working" or to try and make it less awkward have her do your moms hair and find someone else.

If you're paying for a service you definitely want good service & your money's worth!

Only other tip I could think of is to have dirty hair before you curl it (& I mean like maybe one day old hair). Dirty hair can hold a curl a lot better, if you get oily easily use some dry shampoo first.

I would also look into some strong flex hair spray, I personally love Garnier. It will hold your hair without the heaviness and crunch.

Hope it all works out for you!
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Just Said Yes October 2019
noranoranora · on September 25, 2019 at 2:20 PM
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Spend that $40 on hot rollers, hairspray and a fresh flower. Practice at night on your own hair to get the curls to fall how you like them. Hot rollers to curl the whole thing, finish important (highly visible) individual curls with a curling iron, pin a fresh flower in there...gorgeous bridal hair! Take control!
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Natalie · on October 24, 2019 at 11:51 AM
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You are certainly not being selfish by wanting your hair the way you envision on one of the most important days of your life. This hair dresser has had 2 opportunities now and has not managed to meet your expectations, time to find a new one.
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