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Second Guessing Wedding Dress

Laura, on July 10, 2019 at 4:19 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 12

Hi y'all! Is it normal to start second guessing your wedding dress? I've been to around 6-7 bridal boutiques and I finally bought my dress a few days ago! I went back and forth between what styles I wanted, I originally wanted lace fit and flare but then I was leaning towards satin ballgown. I couldn't decide if I wanted something lacy and more fitted, or more of a simple classic look and more grand. After trying on at least over 30+ dresses I finally said yes to one! Fitted lace bodice and then flows out to a tulle skirt. I had never tried anything tulle on before. I was between that one and a simple satin ballgown when I made my decision. I was going to think it over and come back but they offered a discount if I bought it right then and there. Now I'm starting to overthink it and wonder if i made the wrong choice. Is it normal to second guess it that much or should I seriously thinking about getting another one. I feel like I'm not super happy about it still when I look at the picture. Help!

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Latest activity by Erin, on August 12, 2019 at 10:35 PM
  • Allie
    Master August 2019
    Allie ·
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    Dress regret is a real thing. I bought a tulle dress with straps just because I was dazzled by it in the store, even though I prefer the satin, strapless dress. I would say go try them on again if you're willing to buy a new dress.

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  • Anna
    Super April 2020
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    There really needs to be a support group for us girls with dress regrets lol. I am suffering with the same thing. I got mine 7 months ago and started to learn to love it. Well last night my fiance said he wished I had picked the one I wanted ( stupid me brought it up once when I was mad.) Now here I am looking for the dress and realizing my dress budget will be more than I wanted lol.
    I keep telling myself it's just one day. But now I'm thinking this is my wedding. I never thought I would. So I'm all full of emotions right now lol
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  • Kimberly
    Super August 2020
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    I think second guessing is totally normal. I originally was SET on a fitted all lace mermaid style high neck dress. All of my pins on Pinterest were of that style dress and when I tried some on they didn't really flatter me the way I wanted. I actually found that A-lines worked best and ended up with an A-line dress with a tulle skirt and illusion top that I never though would be for me until I tried it on. I didn't have the YES moment or emotional moment for me dress; i just had a calm assurance that I this one was it. I was like you and in between two different dresses but I like the store with nothing. The next bridal store i went to a couple days later I was drawn to a dress - the exact dress I loved at the last boutique and when i tried it on again I knew it was right.

    I think because you feel like you didn't have that one moment of saying yes to the dress and loving another one as well is making you second guess but maybe once you try it on again it will remind you why you fell in love with it in the first place

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  • Trista
    VIP September 2019
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    I definitely struggled with this. I fell in love with my dress in 'blush' and ordered it in white. I was freaking out that I made a mistake and ended up falling more in love with it! Try to remind yourself what you love about the dress.
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  • Virginia
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    Yup going thru it right now. Have an appt tomorrow to try on more dresses.
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  • Stephanie
    Dedicated August 2019
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    I bought my dress over 10 years ago when it was being discontinued, and I’ve saved it ever since. I did try on 7 or so other dresses, but the only one that looked amazing on me was so uncomfortable. I had a corset back and bustle added to my original dress and felt like it was the one. Since then, I’ve seen lots of brides in softer, lacier gowns and have looked back at the pictures of me in the other dresses. What I didn’t realize when I said no to the other dress was that my mom was planning on helping me buy another if I wanted. I didn’t understand what she meant by “don’t worry about the price, do you like it” until after I had already paid for alterations on my original dress. I do absolutely love lacy wedding dresses and I’m not sure that I’m 100% thrilled with my choice, but once we paid for alterations, that was it. I’ve had to keep reminding myself that it’s the dress I’ve wanted to wear for 12 years and that it looks gorgeous on me. My FH will absolutely love it and in the long run, it’s less about the dress, and more about committing to a life together. I did have to stop looking at pictures of everyone else’s dresses so I could stop second guessing. I’m sure we will all be gorgeous brides no matter what dress we choose!
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Rockstar March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Once you buy a dress, stop looking at them online and stores. Yes, it’s easy to second guess, especially while you’re waiting for it to come in. I did go try on more dresses and almost bought another! 🤦‍♀️ I stopped, trusted my gut and was happy when when my first dress arrived. It wasn’t exactly my vision but close enough and not worth spending more time & money.

    Unless there are tears and a knowing you bought the wrong dress, trust your gut. There’s a good reason you bought the dress you did, especially if it wasn’t what you were expecting. 😊
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  • Virginia
    Super June 2021
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    You'll fall in love with the dress all over again once it has been tailored to fit your body the way it was meant to.


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  • Kimberly
    Beginner August 2020
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    You just gave me a huge sigh of relief! I just said yes to my dress and the under skirting was in a light blush color and I want Ivory so I have been in a tailspin wondering if I will still love it in ivory. thank you for sharing! I'm sure I will love my dress just as much, if not more now!

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  • Trista
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    Sorry about the mess and bad lighting in the second picture, but here is mine. I felt gorgeous in the blush, but I feel like a bride in the white.

    Second Guessing Wedding Dress 1

    Second Guessing Wedding Dress 2
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  • Kimberly
    Beginner August 2020
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    Yes I definitely agree! And I'm sure that is exactly how I will feel too(:
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  • Erin
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    I had that exact problem. The doubt was so strong I ended up going back to the store and trying it on again xD My dress is a tight beaded bodice with a sequined tulle skirt, and it looked weird in the pictures when I looked back at it because I tried it on without a slip. I went back and tried it with the corset bra and a ball gown slip, and I fell back in love with it. It happens.

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