Seating Drama Opinion

I only had a couple of dramas to deal with.

One is my 50 year old cousin who picks fights with her sister (she's jealous of her sister's life and success). She is also on the outs with her adult son and his wife. The wife specifically reached out to me and asked that she be seated at a separate table. No big deal, I am happy to accommodate since I know my cousin starts things.

The second issue that I kept in mind is that another cousin who is around 30 just came out in the last few years and has had some issues with his parents about his lifestyle. I want to make sure he knows I support him and I want to make sure he and his boyfriend have a good time at my wedding so sat them with some other fun cousins and not his parents.

I have a few people that don't like each other on my side. Thankfully, I was able to separate them by quite a few tables (at least on my spreadsheet it is LOL).

I understand the feeling of just saying %-It though. I am feeling this way a bit as well, after my bridal shower - which was amazing, but it made me realize just how jealous a lot of people on my one side of the family is & how much they drink. I have decide to accept that they are bitter people, and put them closest to the bar (easiest access to the bar, and they will avoid walking by everyone & they complain about me to each other).

View Quoted Comment The drama I’m dealing with is much more petty he said she said nonsense. That was very kind of you to make sure your cousin felt supported though. That’s an absolute must for situations like that.

View Quoted Comment Yeah I’ll probably take the “keep it away from me” approach lol

I would do your best to avoid seating them together. Do you really want any drama at your wedding? People won’t stay seating most of the evening anyway, so if you need to split up a few friend groups, they can always mingle after dinner.

I'd say screw it. Why split up your friend groups who get along for people who can't act right? They can hold a grudge and complain if they want to. It's not your responsibility to make sure the couple dramatic people are more comfortable than the rest of your guests.

View Quoted Comment That’s where I’m at. These particular people will start something no matter what. I’m gonna try to avoid it but if I can’t, oh well.

Oh I definitely was mindful about who should stay away from each other aha

People are being sat according to families, friends/coworker peer groups. It’s not my issue to entertain who gets along with who...they’re all adults and need to behave as such.