Seating chart

Ok so I know a lot of people here may say we should list every persons name, so find out the plus one name -- I didn't do that. I just put the main guest name + guest. So I wrote it as JOE SMITH + GUEST (this ended up really being good for me because people broke up or people changed their plus one and whatever) but it was also purely for the fact that I had 250 guests, there was no way I could fit everyone on it so I did it that way.

I would really just reach out to them and ask

Oh that is a good idea that Is along the lines of what my FH suggested, but to just put plus one but I like the guest idea

Just put & guest.

If you don't have the time to ask, I'd just do what Melle said. Sounds like a good/simple way to do things without adding on any stress to you.

Whenever I’ve had an escort card that said my husband’s name and guest I’ve always eye rolled pretty hard. You really should reach out and find out their names.

View Quoted Comment Lol that's what I'm trying to do avoid alot of stress lol..

View Quoted Comment Kelly that's what I was kinda thinking in the back of my head..

View Quoted Comment Just send a quick text to these people or have your fiancé send a quick text if they are on his list. It’s better to have their name for thank you cards as well.

I know it's a pain but I think you should reach out. It makes people feel like they're appreciated if you take the extra step to make sure they're included properly!

You should reach out and ask. It literally takes 5 seconds to text someone. You can even copy and paste the text if you're that short on time.

You can just label it as Mr. Bob Hyde and Guest

or if you know if they are married just put Mr. and Mrs. Bob Hyde

If you invited the person, their significant other, and their children...label it as Mr. Bob Hyde and family.

Thank you everyone ..

I would put a name because its more personal and if its someone potentially staying around for a while you want them to feel welcome. We started our seating chart and a lot of people have plus 1s (newer relationships or just hookups for the night) for our friends if it wasn't serious but they have a plus one we plan on doing and guest but if its a couple that has been together or are pretty serious I would definitely take the time to get a name. A few people that we didn't know plus ones on the RSVP they put the name but others just RSVPd the plus 1 as well. Know your crowd. We did a friends move and made a foam board and made flags and drew our floor plan out. Everyones name goes on a flag except plus ones that aren't 100% sure they are sticking around (some friends are opting to bring a date just for the sake of having a date). Those flags will not be filled in. When we do place cards we won't do those until probably week before the wedding so we will reach out to everyone then for the actual names.

View Quoted Comment Cassi good idea

It really doesnt take much time to send a text/email and say "hi, what's the name of the guest you're bringing? Thanks!" I've had to do it for a few and they got back pretty quick. If they dont (still waiting on one, but she had to confirm first), I'm just going to put Jane Does Guest.

I thought it was more personal to have the names so I went with the texting the person to find out. I don't know if it was just me, but I got a random push back from my FH's foster sister who got slightly defensive that I asked, because she did not know at the time "because she was dating around" and asked me if it was like a financial thing?.... so now I'm too scared to ask around. Wasn't sure if I committed some faux pas but now I feel better seeing this post.

I would definitely ask because it will make their guest feel included!

View Quoted Comment I think I'm just going to ask the feedback is leaning towards asking..hopefully no one get offended. 😊

Personally idc about some of the guests coming to our wedding because we don't even know them and we tried to avoid that. But we can't help when FH's friends get new girlfriends. I personally asked for each of their names for the invites because we said that the gf was invited. If they broke up, they're back to a singular spot. If the guest chose to not write their name down that's their own fault. If you truly don't know who they are and they don't know you, for perspective I wouldn't give a crap if I was listed as a "guest" on a seating chart as someone's new girlfriend or just a friend. I wouldn't waste your time if you're too busy.