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Seating chart????

MARIA, on April 27, 2020 at 12:13 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 8

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My wedding has been postponed till next year due to the coronavirus so i know i have time to decide but i need help... So my venue asked if we could do a seating chart. But also gave us the option of not having one. My thing is that it's easy to do my seating chart but on my fiance's side there's a lot of family drama.. I've asked him to help me make one and he was very upset which i understand. It's stressful but i also want to have a day stress free and drama free day... I know if i do the seating chart i would have to split up his family to avoid drama but I'm also worried they'll be dramatic about being sat away from each other... i have no clue what to do.... i have 90 guests in a venue for 100 people so far

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Latest activity by KiwiDerbyBride, on April 28, 2020 at 1:47 AM

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Hannah · on April 27, 2020 at 12:34 AM
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I think if you have that much drama, then a seating chart is beyond necessary. Can you maybe ask your future MIL for help? Mine was helpful in figuring out some people neither my husband and I were sure about. If this is making your fiance so upset, I would really sit down and think about what that drama is and if he/you two really wanted these people at your wedding. Your wedding day should be a happy day, not a minefield. However, at the end of the day, these people should honestly be adult enough to keep their drama to themselves for a few hours.
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MARIA · on April 27, 2020 at 12:39 AM
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Thank you. His parents split and it so bad that he had to tell his mom about her new husband not being invited. His 2 sisters are fighting. So it's kind of a mess and dont know what to do. But you're right we might have to do a sit down before.
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Mrs. S · on April 27, 2020 at 2:17 AM
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Our families were the definition of divorce and drama. A seating chart is crucial. I think you should insist on it even if it’s temporarily stressful to make.
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KiwiDerbyBride · on April 27, 2020 at 6:38 AM
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If it’s that bad, you definitely need a seating chart. But why is his mother’s new husband not invited? Unless he’s done something awful (assault, for example) to someone close to you, he should be invited. You don’t split couples up.
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Melle · on April 27, 2020 at 3:28 PM
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I agree that this sounds like this is wear a seating chart would be a good idea. i am always for team seating chart anyway - assigned tables makes things a lot easier.
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McKenzie · on April 27, 2020 at 3:41 PM
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We actually talked about this last night and decided not to do one. We are doing a buffet dinner not a plated dinner that they need to order ahead of time. I had stressed out about making a seating chart and having to worry about who gets along with who and who doesn't like who. We are going to have a couple reserved family tables but other than that I don't care who sits by who they just need to behave LOL.
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McKenzie · on April 27, 2020 at 3:42 PM
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I just figure they will sit by who they want and if there's someone they don't like they will avoid them and not sit by them. It took a lot of stress off my shoulders to be like well they can sit where they want.
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KiwiDerbyBride · on April 28, 2020 at 1:47 AM
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Just be aware that people don’t divide neatly into table-sized groups of their own accord. Someone will leave a seat between them and the next person, there’ll be two or three vacant seats at a lot of tables and grandma who can’t move as quickly will be last into the room and get stuck down the back where she can’t see or hear anything. If you’re not doing a seating chart (or at least assigning tables), you need 15-20% extra seating. This means more linens, more crockery and cutlery, extra centerpieces and so on.
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