Seating Chart, to separate adult children from their parents?

I think it would be fine either way. Whatever works best for your seating chart.

I agree with Caytlyn.

I agree either works. Daughter separated her young adult cousins and gave them their own table, and put their parents (her aunts & uncles) at tables together and with other guests their age. They all spend plenty of time with their parents, they didn't need to sit with them at a wedding.

Yes, I agree with PPs, that either way works. Besides, you have to remember that most people will only sit at their assigned table while they are eating dinner. After that, they are often up dancing, mingling with other guests, etc.

If it were me, I would put the younger generation at their own table, away from their parents.

Either way it will work. Nobody will be at their table that long but if I was the younger generation I would prefer to sit with people my age.

We did! We had the aunts and uncles at different tables from the cousins, mostly separated by age.

Seat them with people they KNOW. If that’s a couple from their peer group, that’s fine. But if they only people they really know are their parents— id seat them together.

Its funny, I actually just WENT to a wedding where this was a concern of mine. There was a peer group where I would logically fit in (mutual cousins) but, they’re people I don’t know (think: met once 25 years ago) so I was nervous that my parents would be seated with their peer group (their siblings) and we would be sat with mine and they’re basically strangers so it would be weird and awkward. I was basically dreading this walking in and was SO SO RELIEVED to be seated with my parents!! As it turned out later in the night we had a great time chatting with some of those cousins but it was smooth natural conversation— introduced via a group conversation with the parents and ended up hanging out for a while— but that sort of natural conversation progression wouldn’t have been what would’ve happened if we just all showed up to the same dinner table. It would be more forced and a lot more “who are you??” type conversation. I think SOMEONE in common is necessary to bridge the conversation gap.

In fact, at our wedding we had a similar question! H’s mom’s BFF brought her adult son as her guest (actually both her children and their spouses were all invited individually, but only the 2 of them came). We also questioned where to put him— with his mom (and thusly with my FMIL and her older relatives) or with peers — but in this case, the only other person he knew besides his mom, my MIL, and my H was .... H’s brother! So, we ended up deciding to put him with H’s brother, and that ended up being a great success — they were thrilled to catch up. He ended up getting along swimmingly with the table, but I think he would’ve been uncomfortable without the bridge of H’s brother— the common denominator of guests at the table. Having at least someone in common seemed key to the table’s success !

so , I would only stick an adult child with peers instead of parents if there was someone else (**besides their date!) they know at that table!

Another anecdote was actually my brother’s wedding. We ended up with a random peer group, and it was awkward. I think it was just how their tables worked out and the family table was filled and they figured we would be the most amenable to being the random people at a table (which was probably true!) but aside from a few fun interactions, H and I were basically just hanging out which eachother. Which isn’t the end of the world, but in an ideal situation I’d have much preferred be with my family.

But, if there’s any link , it helps!

Oh, I see everyone else is answering about cousins — for us, yes we separated cousins from their parents and seated them amongst their cousins. They all knew eachother though— which is different than what I presumed the question to be talking about : I read it as basically if it’s better to seat this young couple with their parents, or with a table of strangers. I think that’s an important distinction. (Id rather be sat with my own cousins, generally). We had this situation on one side of H’s. There was a cousin (and her husband), who had their whole family there (parents, aunts and uncles), but were a younger generation. We put them with their family instead of a random group of people their age that they didn’t know.

I have a children’s table because O only have 30 Rectangle tables.

I can’t sit every WHOLE family together.

Correction: I, not O.

I separated teenage/adult children from their parents. I thought it would be more fun for the older and younger generations of our two families to meet when seated together.

I think either way can work, and every situation is different. If a family has say children ages 21, 18, 12 an 9, then the issue is where to put the younger ones. If all 18-25 easier. I don't like the idea of turning anyone other than actual parents into babysitters.

Either works! FHs cousins all seated people by families at their weddings. My cousins all did a cousin table and an aunt/uncle table. We’re doing both (families for his side, generational tables for my side) because we know that’s what our guests prefer.

It's fine either way. Generally I would prefer to sit with my parents (I'm married and over 30) than other random people you think i would get along with closer to my age. If I'm actually friends with and know the similar-aged group of people, then it's fine. There's no right answer, but that would be my preference.

I'm having the same dilemma! Sit them with their parents or cousins - i think i'll end up doing cousins and their S/O then my aunts and uncles at the table next to them.

I did that !!! Actually I think I asked first and then they said they'd rather sit with people they know and that are their age.

You could definitely do either, whichever is easiest for you.

For us, most of the adult children are going to be sitting with the other cousins/adult kids. Especially my side, the adult kids are all around my age and like to party. They’d appreciate being closer to the bar and dance floor and their parents would not. The only adult children I’m sitting with their parents are two of FH’s childhood friends because their parents wouldn’t know anyone else. also our ring bearer is one of their sons and his grandparents will likely be helping with him as partying starts.