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Seating chart drama

Weddingguest2094, on July 3, 2023 at 11:51 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 3

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My brother is getting married this weekend. His fiancée is kind and her and I get along quite well. My narcissistic mother is proving to be a challenge, however. For the seating chart, the plan was to have one table per family side for immediate family (parents, grandparents, siblings) so I was to be seated at that table. My mom “suggested” to my SIL that I be moved to sit with random distant cousins because she wanted to start drama. SIL, understandably, moved me because she didn’t want my mom to make a fuss which she absolutely would have. The day isn’t about me, and I’m not blaming my SIL at all. But it’s hurtful to be the sister of the groom and sitting with random relatives because my mother is the worst. I’m not going to say anything to my SIL, where I sit is where I sit. But I am hurt by it. So I do want to know - does the seating chart ultimately matter much?

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Latest activity by Cece, on July 3, 2023 at 7:29 PM

CM · on July 3, 2023 at 12:14 PM
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If it helps, it's very common for siblings to be seated with people in their own age group, whether that's with other siblings, cousins, or friends of the family as opposed to their own parents or grandparents. You'll likely only have to be at the table when you're eating, for introductions and dances, or toasts. I'd think of it as a way to get to know your cousins better. I understand being annoyed, but wouldn't stress.
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Taylor · on July 3, 2023 at 3:09 PM
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Like CM said, I understand being annoyed but wouldn’t stress. I sat my sister who was my MOH with a group of friends/family friends that she knows well and are all her age or my age and my one bridesmaid and her fiancé sat there as well. My parents sat separately with the adults of that group of young people and they’re all close and know each other very well. It’s not necessarily a big deal for immediate family to be split between different tables. And you only sit there for introductions/dancing and food anyway
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Cece · on July 3, 2023 at 7:29 PM
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I agree with the previous posters, I wouldn’t stress about it. You won’t be sitting there long. I would, however, make a point to say in front of your mom how happy and excited you are to be sitting with your cousins! 😆
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