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Grace
Expert June 2019

Seating chart advice

Grace, on April 26, 2019 at 11:34 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 19
We are having around 240 people for a buffet style meal. Originally I was planning on making a seating chart just for which table to sit at because I thought it might help keep things a little more organized and then people don’t have to worry about getting separated if they don’t sit down right away. I have been to tons of weddings that didn’t have seating charts and never had a problem but I’ve been to a couple where I don’t know as many people there and it was comforting to know I was definitely going to get to sit with people I knew no matter what. I’m just kind of over wedding planning and don’t feel like deciding where to sit everyone lol I know it sounds lazy but I’m just tired of putting all this energy into ONE day. So what are your experiences with no seating chart weddings?

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Latest activity by Sara, on June 13, 2019 at 10:14 AM
  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
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    The one wedding I’ve been to (out of dozens) that didn’t have a seating chart was a mess. People were dragging chairs from one table to another to sit more people at their table and some of the bride’s close family members were seated back by the kitchen because they came in late after photos.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    You should do a seating chart, especially for such a high guest count. Take an hour or two out of your day to save your guests the inconvenience of sitting alone, splitting up their party, etc. If you choose not to make a seating chart, you will also need to have 25% more seats, chairs, centerpieces, etc. as guests won't seat themselves efficiently. That's a pretty good chunk of money just to save a little bit of work.

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  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
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    Oh man! That is definitely a burden to seat that many people, good luck. From what I can recall, I have only been to one wedding where there wasn't a seating chart, and it was a casual reception with many long rectangular tables put together in rows similar to a cafeteria. In this instance, there was no issue. As a guest, I like being assigned a table. I have never been assigned a specific seat though. You have to do what works best for you, your venue and your crowd. I understand that the burn out is real though. I am feeling it myself lol.

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  • Grace
    Expert June 2019
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    Yeah, I get that it can be a mess haha a big reason why I was considering not doing it is because of these 240 people maybe 40 of them are mine and my fiancé’s friends. The rest are family and people from our church so it’s basically going to be like a large church gathering and everyone already knows each other haha
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  • Mandy
    VIP May 2019
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    I've never been to a seating chart wedding. I'm from a small town, most of the weddings here are under 200 and it's likely you will know at least one person there. None of the weddings I've been to have been super formal, it's just not common here. I'll have about 130 people at my wedding and I'm not doing a seating chart. We'll do seating for 150 so people can hop around - it's a know your guests situation in my case. Everyone we invited knows at least 4-5 people who will be there plus they will all have their sig-nif with them so they have at least someone to talk to. I can see where with 240 guests it would be more of a pain to find seating as a family/group though unless you have enough seating for say 275 so there's always enough seating to move around/chat, etc.

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  • Summerbride77
    VIP July 2019
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    I’ve never been to a wedding without a seating chart. To be honest it’s kinda my worst nightmare. I like being told wear to sit and trusting that the hosts have put me in a good spot. But, thb, my family loves a good seating chart. We were always making fun placecards for big family meals (my mom is one of six) growing up!
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  • B
    Super May 2019
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    I went to one wedding without a seating chart and it was chaotic. A lot of the family weren't the first ones into the reception room, so they were at the back tables. Groups were split up, too. People don't seat themselves efficiently, so there were a lot of single seats spread out around the room, with people having to fill those in and then getting separated from their significant other.

    We are having about 130 guests and are doing table assignments. We have distinct groups of people, so before we even started receiving RSVPs (but had our final guest list), I grouped our guests together. As the RSVPs have come in, I'm grouping more accurately. When we get the last of the RSVPs, we'll have a good idea of who will sit with who and then can make our final table assignments.

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  • Grace
    Expert June 2019
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    I had never been to one with a seating chart until recently! And it was nice bc I didn’t know a lot of people there but I feel like everyone at mine will know each other except for a few friends. We basically invited our whole church so that’s what added so many people to our list. I wish we could assign some people tables then just have all the church folks sit where they want since they sit together every week without a seating chart lol but I know that wouldn’t work
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  • Grace
    Expert June 2019
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    Our wedding is in a barn so there really won’t be like a bad seat or back table so table position won’t be a that big a deal I don’t think! And I also have such a large family that I’m only taking pictures with my parents grandparents and brother anyway
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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
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    I've been to large weddings without a seating chart, and it was really chaotic. One I went to was huge (like 350 guests), and nobody was sure where to go, and we didn't know many people at that one, so it was awkward trying to find a seat together, while not offending any of the family. It also took a lot longer to get everyone seated, because nobody knew what they were supposed to do.

    The best thing is to assign tables. People can figure out what seat to pick, as long as they know what table to go to. It will keep things organized, and keep you on schedule, which is important with such a large wedding.

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  • S
    Expert October 2019
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    Definitely assign tables! Especially for that many people, you’ll have to have 25% more seats available to accommodate empty chairs. The one wedding I went to without assigned tables was smaller, but still a hot mess! I think most people are used to being assigned and personally I find it comforting to know that I’ll be seated with people I know already. My wedding isn’t for 6 more months, but as we made the guest list everyone was more or less “grouped” by family/friend group or how we know them. So based on that I sort of know how I’ll seat everyone and then once we start getting RSVPs later on I can finalize it.
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  • LB
    Champion November 2016
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    For your guests comfort please assign tables. It's really not that hard once you get down to it. I. Ant imagine walking into a room with that many people and having to claim a seat. I bet its feel like a high school cafeteria
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  • FutureMrsKC
    Master January 2019
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    It took us 10 minutes to do a seating chart for 160 people, this really wasn't a stress. Don't worry about it until your RSVPS come back and it really won't take a lot of time to do. Every wedding should have some order, in my opinion. Assigning tables is easier than assigning specific chairs.

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  • Grace
    Expert June 2019
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    Lol yeah I’m probably going to do one I just thought maybe it wasn’t really necessary but I pretty much got a resounding answer that it’s chaos without it. Making the assignments isn’t the part I don’t want to do really, it’s making the actual thing to hang at the wedding that everyone looks at. And I’ve heard you should make at least two so everyone isn’t waiting in line to find their table while people search for their name
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  • Ansley
    Dedicated February 2020
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    There are lots of different ways to do this - you can use escort cards instead of a big chart, etc. Check Pinterest for ideas!

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  • Jakie
    Savvy November 2019
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    Thanks for this. Following for adviceSmiley smile

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  • Jess
    Super September 2019
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    I would say a seating chart is definitely needed for a guest count that high! Maybe have FH, your parents, his parents, or your bridesmaids help you so its not just on you? That way you could probably finish it in a hour or two so it doesn't take an entier day!

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  • MIWM
    VIP June 2019
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    A seating chart is a must!!!

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  • Sara
    Super July 2019
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    My advice to you is to spend the extra time and do the seating chart. As PPs have said before, it is VERY chaotic. I've been to many without seating charts and it was a nightmare. I ended up sitting with a bunch of people I had no idea who they were because the people I did know came late. Trust me, your guests will thank you.

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