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Seafood Allergy. Leave Off the Menu?

Simone, on September 30, 2019 at 2:13 PM Posted in Planning 1 18

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So, my aunt is severely allergic to seafood. She's one of those people who can't even be in the room where it has been cooked ecause the residual smell can trigger an attack. She is one of my closest family members and I'm wondering if I should leave it off of the menu all altogether or do the seating where there's no one at the table or surrounging table who will be eating seafood.

We are having a rooftop wedding so it's not an enclosed space where the smell is sort of trapped. Or should I leave it off the menu? If so, then the menu would be beef, chicken, and a vegetarian option. But I don't think many of our guests are vegetarian so they will most likely be choosing between the beef and chicken. What do you guys think?

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Latest activity by Kendra, on October 1, 2019 at 7:36 PM

Master September 2019
Sarah · on September 30, 2019 at 2:17 PM
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I would just leave it off the menu. Even if you don’t seat her with people eating seafood, what if she gets up and moves around during dinner to say hi to someone or run to the restroom? I’m of the “better safe than sorry” camp.
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Super October 2019
Kelly · on September 30, 2019 at 2:18 PM
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I would leave off the menu. Better safe than sorry, especially when the consequences are this this large.
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Legend July 2019
MrsD · on September 30, 2019 at 2:22 PM
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We didn't serve any seafood at our wedding, and we had 4 passed appetizers, an appetizer station, a salad course, two proteins & two sides. Most weddings I've attended didn't have seafood either, I think it's just easier to avoid it for allergies & taste aversions.
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Expert October 2019
Tonia · on September 30, 2019 at 2:25 PM
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I have this issue where my FSIL is allergic. We have seafood for appetizers and on the dinner menu. We made the decision to leave it on. We really wanted the fish. We talked to her about it and she said as long as there is no cross contamination she will be fine. Out of my 95 guests, she is the only one with a seafood allergy. It really depends on how severe her allergy is.
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Super May 2020
Andrea · on September 30, 2019 at 2:29 PM
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I’d leave it off the menu. I agree that most weddings don’t have a seafood option. And it’s definitely not expected. You don’t need to have 3 entree options but if you want 3 you could always do pork tenderloin or a second chicken choice that is extremely different than the other choice. Also some vegetarian entrees are delicious. I think a lot of non vegetarians will order the vegetable Napoleon our venue is creating.
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Melle · on September 30, 2019 at 2:31 PM
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I agree with the pps and to leave off menu
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Master December 2019
Cher Horowitz · on September 30, 2019 at 2:49 PM
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I second PPs that I'd leave seafood off the menu entirely. Your aunt will definitely appreciate that
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Super February 2020
Jeanie · on September 30, 2019 at 2:58 PM
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If you leave it off, it should completely eliminate the possibility of cross contamination. If your aunt is that allergic, that’s probably a good idea. I would also notify your venue that you do have a guest who is allergic, just in case they use anything for flavoring that you don’t know about.
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Caytlyn · on September 30, 2019 at 3:33 PM
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I would leave it off your menu. One of my BMs has a severe nut allergy, so we (unfortunately) had to bypass the delicious peanut butter filling that our baker offered. Better safe than sorry!
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Simone · on September 30, 2019 at 3:49 PM
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Thanks, everyone. We'll leave it off.
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Super December 2019
Kaleigh · on September 30, 2019 at 4:00 PM
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Speaking as someone who has a seafood allergy, I think its just safer to leave it off the menu. If someone complains about not having seafood, so what! Due to the allergies I know are coming, we are not having anything with seafood, nuts, (specifically almonds and peanuts), and avocado.
She'll be grateful, and you'll not be stressed about a potential situation.
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Master October 2019
mrsaj2b · on September 30, 2019 at 11:24 PM
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Leave off the menu. Accidents and miscommunications can happen and the last thing you want is an emergency for your Aunt and that emergency taking over your wedding celebration.
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Expert October 2019
Aleaj · on September 30, 2019 at 11:41 PM
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I would leave the seafood off. It’s just too much of a hazard, what if she goes over to speak to someone at a table, and they have seafood? Or vice versa? I would just play it safe and do the chicken & beef
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Dedicated October 2019
#desimonestakethethrone · on October 1, 2019 at 12:16 AM
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I have the same situation with my cousing fiance. I left it off the menu. Im going with chicken, beef, vegetarian, and incorporated a puertorican dish porkshoulder with rice.
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Rebecca · on October 1, 2019 at 2:27 AM
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I'd leave it off. My stepmother is deathly allergic to cilantro, so we made sure the caterer didn't use any at all, just to be very safe.
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MrsV1027 · on October 1, 2019 at 10:33 AM
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I would leave it off. If she's that allergic it's too big of a risk to take. What if the staff touches a seafood dish and then passes hers out?
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Jessica · on October 1, 2019 at 7:24 PM
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I agree with everyone else, if her allergy is very severe I would leave it out.
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