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I'm making a to the minute detailed list for my coordinator. It's the main reason I hired them: to hit play at the right times 😅

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Won't you have to pay them as a DJ too?

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If I'm being completely honest, I am only using my coordinators for setup, takedown, and to press play at the right times. I have planned everything myself, including curating each and every playlist myself. I was very transparent with what I expected from them, and for the price I am still being charged, I think it's more than fair.

Just have full transparency and fully explain what you need from your vendors. There's many things they are willing to do that will surprise you and other things they won't that you would assume they should.

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Thanks. will have to remember to ask such questions. It sounds like you also avoid having the DJ cue up the chicken dance. But I think their role is to keep the people occupied.

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It definitely took a lot of time, but making all the playlists myself made me feel a lot better about so many things including not paying a DJ. Luckily, I have 2 friends who are great MCs to entertain guests until we get there. If that helps at all with ideas for yours.

I'd suggest having your officiant make an announcement after your ceremony (i.e. "please join us in X location for cocktail hour"). Depending on your venue, I think mics and speakers would probably be a good idea too just so everyone is able to hear.

Hi I'm thinking of this as a back up in case my FH doesn't hiring a DJ it is a extra cost. But I am on the fence because DJ do bring different feeling and hypeness to the whole thing. But I also understand what you are saying if your Coordinator for the day is will to help with that then cool. And that other ppl that will help you MC and it will keep guest happy you have to do what's best for you all. If so I will appoint someone as well to be our Hype person. But keeping my finger Ross for a DJ. but I know that we will ha e family and friends to come thru if that seems to be our LAST LAST HOPE

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We will have an older crowd who may not be interested in a DJ who would normally excite a younger crowd. Still, it would be important to have someone who is able to provoke a sense of movement and direction for the reception. I think that is partly what some of the dreaded bouquet and garter toss are about.

View Quoted Comment Yes I understand that that as well we will have age group between 10yrs and 68yrs old which surprised us that my mom and future mother in law actually like that hip hop clubhouse music and we will be doing and R&B SONG from the 70's - today's music request by our parents. We both look at each and was like lol lol ok ok. And why dont you like the bouquet and garter toss we will be do that but most likely which a twist.

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Great you have such the wild family.

Well. The garter toss just is sort of an archaic event with weird meaning about warding off spirits. Then it seems like a totally embarrassing thing we would be doing in front of a crowd. Some couples are finding sort of a substitute item to toss in order to avoid this situation. I guess many brides are not bothered by this, but someone posted statistics on this in a post months ago. It might have been 40% who still do the garter toss.

Sorry. Didn't mean to distract from the main topic.

View Quoted Comment Oh wow that you viewed it that way everyone in my family has does it. We look at it like the next person to get married and most of the women were ready for it some guys did too. But now with this era that we all had to deal with these last few years we dont know how many would participate in the bouquet and the garter toss. But we will chat about it again but before we enter in the space a pray will be done. But as you said its not for you both so it's ok. Just have a great wedding day

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I'm not sure what will happen. We are still in the early planning. I may have to give in to pressures of the traditions. lol

View Quoted Comment If you chose to without the pressure once you fo it will be over before you know it. Lol lol just enjoy your day and family and friends who are there celebrating with you guys.

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Right. It would only be a brief moment of embarrassment. Maybe I'll get a better sense of what our guests sort of want. But we may not have many bachelors there anyhow.

View Quoted Comment Yes I'm sure if you both are having a wedding party standing up for you they will be your to be your decision maker. In a fun good way 😊