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Lea
Savvy June 2020

Scrapping 2nd reception

Lea, on March 19, 2021 at 11:20 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

Hi all,

My husband and I got married on our original date in June 2020, downsized to just immediate family and bridal party. When we made the decision to cut the guest list, we said we hoped to have a reception in Summer 2021 to celebrate with the original guest list (200 ish people). However, for a variety of reasons, we've decided to scrap that idea and no longer have one.

We've had two out of state family members ask when the reception is going to be so they can start planning, but otherwise no one has said anything. Is it necessary to communicate we aren't doing it? I feel like we need to since we had said we were planning to do it, so I want to be courteous. At the same time though, it seems like people have kind of forgotten about it and moved on. If we do send out a notice, any suggestions on wording?

Thanks!



7 Comments

Latest activity by Lea, on March 20, 2021 at 8:58 PM
  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    If you had sent out info on the reception, or given any kind of written "promise" of an event, I think it might be a good idea to send out a cancellation notice, stating something along the lines of: "After much discussion, we have decided to cancel our plans for a larger wedding reception for September 2021. We appreciate your love and support, and we are excited to see where married life takes us!"


    If you never sent out a written Save The Date or anything, I think it's fine to not send anything out to everyone, and instead just communicate to those who specifically asked and let them know that you changed your plans, and will no longer be hosting a reception.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
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    You can verbally let people know or in a casual text/email. A formal announcement is not necessary.

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  • J
    Super March 2022
    JA ·
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    My future BIL/SIL just went through the same thing. Original date May 2020, did an intimate 15 person wedding in June 2020, had planned for May 2022, postponed again, and finally cancelled. They told their close family and friends, and then their parents reached out to everyone else on the guest list via phone or email and let them know. It took some pressure off of them from having to tell everyone, and the parents were all more than happy to contact people to take some of the stress away
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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    I think it’s perfectly fine to just contact people and let them know you will not be having it. With the current circumstances everyone understands.
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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    Agree- sending out a formal letter isn’t really necessary. You can send out a text, call email.
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  • Biaani
    Expert May 2021
    Biaani ·
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    Maybe they haven't forgotten about it, they're just waiting on you guys to communicate further plans. I agree with those above, I would just let them know verbally that you're no longer planning a party.

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  • Lea
    Savvy June 2020
    Lea ·
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    I was leaning towards just sending out an email-I have an email list created still from sending out the Zoom link for our ceremony last year. So I think I will just send an email. Thanks everyone!

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