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Scrap the big wedding?

Melissa, on August 19, 2020 at 11:38 PM Posted in Planning 0 14

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Starting to feel like I should scrap the big wedding and get elope. I've been trying to get into a venue for 7 months. Y'all it's my brother. My brother finds ever excuse to never contact me. I've tried every month to see this venue. He was paying for it. I have 70 guest. I called four times in two days he says he didn't know it was me bc my number wasn't saved. But answered my snap chats. Then said I could see it this weekend. Lord and behold my engagement pictures are finally this weekend.

So not only do I have someone pulling my hair about this venue. I have 70 people bci don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. But yet I'm balling my eyes out at 11:30 at night bc I'm so stressed about money now.

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Latest activity by Melissa, on August 20, 2020 at 12:36 PM

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KiwiDerbyBride · on August 19, 2020 at 11:43 PM
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Don’t count on anyone else for money for your wedding until the money is in your bank account, cheque cleared. I’m sorry your brother is ignoring you but make a new plan that doesn’t involve him.
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Katie · on August 20, 2020 at 12:07 AM
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It sounds like he doesn't want to pay for it. I'd recommend looking into options you and FH can afford on your own.
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Melissa · on August 20, 2020 at 12:09 AM
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Girl all he had to do was pay for the cleaning. He's president of the area that the venue is in. ,🤦‍♀️
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Jasmine · on August 20, 2020 at 12:36 AM
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That's really shady and I'm sorry you're going through that. If anything, to suppress the stress, like you mentioned, you can always elope now and then just hold out for a bigger reception/celebration another day/year. Whatever you do, I really hope it works out for you. Last thing you need is to go crazy over someone who doesn't seem to want to help. I wish you the best of luck!
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Sexypoodle · on August 20, 2020 at 2:02 AM
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Sounds like the foreshadowing to a nightmare😬 So I’d heed these red flags and find your own venue.
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Mrs. Spring · on August 20, 2020 at 4:56 AM
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Don't rely on others to financially contribute to your wedding unless they gave tou the money upfront. He sounds unreliable for this task. I recommend you find your own venue within your buget or get married at your local courthouse or elope out of town.
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Jai · on August 20, 2020 at 6:00 AM
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Def find your own venue and if you have to adjust your wedding plans slightly, it will still turn out ok!
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Yasmine · on August 20, 2020 at 7:02 AM
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Why is your brother paying for your venue? If he's avoiding you it seems as though he probably doesn't want to do it. I didn't expect money from anyone for my wedding at all. Can you pay for it yourself?
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Margaret · on August 20, 2020 at 7:10 AM
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Personally, if you can't afford it on your own, you should reconsider the venue and size. Just because someone says they will pay, you'll read often through these forums that the person backed out or ghosted the couple. I wouldn't rely on anyone and have the wedding you want the way you can afford it.
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Melissa · on August 20, 2020 at 8:14 AM
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He offered. He knows my fiancee is looking at back surgery and that we work out butts off just to make ends meet. Also I think he originally agreed to it bc he hasn't been around much
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Yasmine · on August 20, 2020 at 9:39 AM
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So what are you going to do?
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Day · on August 20, 2020 at 10:49 AM
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He may have felt that he needed to contribute because of his absence... Now that it’s finally in the works, it seems like he is unsure about his initial decision. I agree that you should probably start looking at venues within your own budget to ensure you have a location for your day.
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Martha · on August 20, 2020 at 12:35 PM
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I agree look at different venues and if needed cut the guest list.
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