Scared !

Omg!!!!! That's my I been feeling and we have been together for 8years as well....... so don't feel bad I'm ready and nervous at the same time

I feel that same way! I’ve been with my FH for 5 years, we have been engaged for almost 2 years and will be getting married in less than 7 months. I think that time is flying and we can’t stop it isn’t helping. I know the moment we walk down the isle it will be back to normal 😂

What do you think is causing you to feel this way? Have you been more stressed about something lately?

I think it’s completely normal! I’ve subconsciously been picking fights and testing my FH which is so wrong and I didn’t really realize I was doing it until I broke down the other night. I don’t have cold feet at all and I want nothing more than to spend my life with him. But marriage is something special and sacred, and neither of us believe in divorces. So we’re about to make a life long commitment to each other in front of God and all our friends and families. There is no running once you do that and it’s scary. So I totally get that and think it’s normal, we just have to focus on all the good that is to come and how much closer and stronger we are going to get to our FH. My FH even admited he was scared too, it’s just a lot of change all at once ❤️

Over the course of planning, I have had a lot of anxiety about the wedding itself also. It’s so expensive and everyone knows you’ve had X years/months to plan and there is just so much expectation for ONE “perfect” day. How could anything ever live up to the hype?! It’s also felt really lonely in a lot of ways, and I felt guilty for feeling this way. As it’s getting closer (less than two months to go now), and everything is falling into place or is already settled, I’ve noticed that I’m getting a lot more excited instead of anxious.

I think it's a huge step for you. Even though you are living together you're now committing "for better or worse." I think it's a similar feeling to signing for a new car.. 'Ok.... I've done the research and I know I want this ford, but then you're in front of it, with the sales person ready to sign and you're nervous. Why? You know you need it.. You know it's the right car, but now I have to pay for it and do regular maintenance and hope you don't get into an accident, and someone better not scratch it in a parking lot.'

I was dating my husband for 12 years and we weren't living together. I had no doubts, but I had so many thoughts like, "oh not, were going to have to make super big decisions together instead of just doing whatever I want." premarital counciling helped me, because it forced us to talk about things we probably would have avoided. Having those conversations about our expectations for the future helped my nerves with what may change in the future. We're two months in and doing well 🙂

Yes all of this is normal. On days it seems like it’s a lot of weight on your shoulders but if you think about it. You love each other and this is what you both want so you push through it. I have daily talk and prayer with my FH. I have found out this works for us. Figure out what works for you and do it together. Communication is key just remember that.

I didn't experience this but it is a huge event that comes with a ton of stress. I knew I didn't want a long engagement because I feel like that just allows time for the stress to build up and the anxiety. Just remember that basically nothing is going to change except if you change your last name. Think of it as a big party celebrating that you have been together for so long.

I'd say it's normal. I got engaged Labor Day 2018. Since than I"ve been planning and haven't had a chance to just enjoy the engagement. I now HATE planning and the wedding itself. Driving me crazy.

Something to remember: You've been with your FH for 8.5 years, you have everything planned, and your marrying the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. That is an amazing feeling to know that you have someone you love that will cherish you, and take care of you no matter what. Lean on that. No worries, things are planned, and you're ready. Enjoy every minute of it

It's normal but something I have learned to keep my feet on the ground is doing something I love. My recent obsession has been taking a break from planning and watching Hallmark Christmas movies. I love Christmas. The Wedding Planning is Stressful. Focus on you for a moment each day.

My FH told me something the other day when I was really stressed out and it's helped me a lot. He told me not not put so much pressure on myself because it's not the marriage I was stressed about, it's the planning of the wedding... it's a huge party. When he put it in terms of it's just a huge party, then I started to calm down a bit. Putting it in another perspective, not the marrying him part but the party part made it more ok in my head. It was like I was able to compartmentalize the party from the marriage (which I have zero doubts about).

Hope this helps you too!!

I felt similar to you. We only had a 10-month engagement and planning was really smooth. But the thought of actually getting married was crazy! About two months out I started to hate the thought of getting married and it had nothing to do with my now-husband or our relationship. I hated that I'd be the center of attention, wished we would have eloped, and was already missing the engagement period, wishing I'd had more time to just enjoy it because I LOVED being engaged. And the general thought of marriage was really tummy-turning at the time.

But! I knew I had found my person, and I knew that I wanted to spend forever with him, and I chalked everything else up to my first point of hating being the center of attention. At the end of the day, even though everyone's eyes were on me as the bride, I never felt that way because I was in such a state of euphoria for the entire evening I didn't even notice. I miss the counting down to the wedding, but honestly now that we're married, nothing feels different. Other than having to remember what my new name is lol.

Nerves are completely normal! As long as you don't have doubts about your relationship you'll be totally fine. Enjoy the last 6 months of your countdown because it is going to fly by!

I felt very anxious about the wedding for most of our engagement (over 1.5 years). The pressure to have the perfect day really weighs on you, and at a certain point I was doubting every decision we made, wondering if people would think it was "good enough". I even had a few breakdowns around 6 months out because of it. I just attended my cousins wedding where everything was not "perfect" by the book but it was perfectly them and everyone had an amazing time. I think I came home from my trip with a new perspective and more excited than ever to finish up planning because no matter what this wedding is a reflection of FH and I and if people feel the love and enjoy themselves that's all that matters. I stressed so much about planning a perfect day where everyone was happy, etc. Things fall into place. We are two months out now and I'm SO READY! The anxiety has mostly passed and I'm pumped!

I'm so sorry you are having these feelings. I feel compelled to differ from most of the PPs. If something is nagging at you, you should listen to your gut. Perhaps you should seek out some therapy to figure out what's going on. 2.5 years is a long time to be engaged and if you are feeling like you rushed into planning a wedding, that's something you should figure out before you get married. Sure, there can be stress with planning a wedding and spending a lot of money on one day. However, if you are saying you didn't enjoy your engagement of 2.5 years and you are feeling anxiety, you need to explore why. Be honest with your FH about how you are feeling. Jumping in and hoping for the best is not the answer.