Saying our vows at reception?

Are you writing your own voes? Why wouldn't it be appropriate to say them during the ceremony?

If you feel like they are too personal to share, you could say them to each other during the first look and then do traditional repeat after me vows during the ceremony.

A short thank you speech would be fine at the reception, but I would be confused if you read your vows. Isn't that the point of the ceremony?

If you don't say your vows during the ceremony, then what's the point of having one?

Edit: I know my tone sounds bitchy, but it's not. I'm just curious.

I am confused ...Are your guests not invited to your ceremony?

I feel like the point of vows is to say them during the ceremony, while you are committing your lives to one another.

Honestly, I'd find it weird to take place at the reception.

Are you getting married at a court house? Just trying to see why you want to read your vows during a reception party

As a guest, I would be super confused. You should probably just do your vows during the ceremony.

It's not inappropriate to do your vows during the ceremony. Is there any particular reason why you don't want to?

I may be mistaken but I thought the vows were a legal part, to make the marriage official. I would ask your officiant.

I can't think of a more appropriate time for marriage vows than a wedding ceremony. On the flip side, saying them at the reception does seem inappropriate.

ETA: We also had a short, non-religious ceremony.

Thank you guys for your help. Maybe we will just say them privately- we only have the ceremony space for a limited amount of time so we weren't sure if we would have the time for them at that point. I will talk to FH. Thank you

Huh? You don't want to say vows at the ceremony but you want to say "vows" during the reception? Whaaaaat? OP come back and clarify because what you wrote makes zero sense. And why does it feel inappropriate to you? It's vows not a rundown of your love making sessions.

Your voes should be less than a minute each....

Please explain how you "won't have time" for vows? And also are your guests invited to your ceremony?

Also the ceremony is the MOST important part of your day. Give it the respect it deserves.

I feel like we are missing something. Our ceremony is no longer than 20 minutes and that includes our vows. I always thought the ceremony is for your vows. Vows shouldn't be a really long speech either. If you guys wrote big long letters to each other then maybe that is what you mean? You can share long letters to each other privately but vows are typically quite short and sweet.