Save the dates

We have people from different states and countries as well. Our wedding is in February. We're still waiting on our save the dates and I'm hoping to have those sent out by next month.


Then we'll have our invites sent out a couple months beforehand. That also is based on when your final headcount is due to your venue/caterer.

Most of our guests are in different states across the country so we originally sent out save the dates about six months before the date. Now that we postponed, we sent change the date cards for another six months out. I don’t think it’s ever too early! It’s just giving your guests the courtesy of knowing to drop everything for that future date, without excuse!

Every single one of our guests has to travel at least two hours to our wedding and needs overnight accommodations, so I sent save the dates as combination Christmas cards last December (about 9 months out). We had already mentioned the date to all vips by that point as well. I would have sent them around a year in advance if I had been more organized.
To be honest though, only two guests made travel arrangements upon receiving the save the date, everyone else planned to do so around March/April then Covid struck. Most guests have only made arrangements within the last couple of weeks since receiving official invitations, which I don’t blame them with things being so up in the air for a while.

Personally I think 13 months is too early, and mail is not as slow is you think these days. We sent out our invitations on a Saturday from our house and they were received by all our guests no later than Tuesday and that was sending to many different states and rural areas.

There's a greater chance of people misplacing and forgetting about the date when you send your STDs too early (we sent ours 6 months prior and many of our friends / family forgot the date).

If the people you're inviting are closes in relations to you then telling them them in advance is also an option and sending your STDs at the 6 - 9 month mark is better.

At the end of the day it's definitely up to you and your FS.

9-12 months out is typical if the wedding is a destination wedding or will involve a fair amount of travel for the majority of the guests. It gives them plenty of time to save up for travel expenses. 6-9 months out is better if it won’t involve long distance travel for the majority of guests since they won’t have to buy plane tickets or drive for hours.

I’m getting married July 2021 and I recently sent out my Save The Dates. My brother was telling to do so because people started to reschedule weddings that were summer 2020 to summer 2021. My brother and his wife got a Change the Date for a wedding that is the day before my wedding. So obviously they can’t go to that wedding anymore. It may have been too early but I felt like it was the best thing to do in my situation.

Our wedding is July 2021 and we don't plan on sending them out until at least September as we have family coming in from different states & some need ample amount of time to notify their jobs.

I say do what you feel is best.