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Save the dates!

Stephanie, on December 24, 2019 at 5:53 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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So we have our save the dates and are starting to think about addressing them to send to everyone but I was wondering what the proper way to address them was, especially when someone has a plus one. Do I address it just to the person or do I write “and guest” on it as well. I know I have to for the actual invites, but I just don’t know what the rule is for save the dates.

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Latest activity by Laura, on December 30, 2019 at 5:12 PM

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Givemeallthepups · on December 24, 2019 at 6:11 PM
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If someone was in a relationship when save the dates went out I named both people on the envelope. If they were single I only addressed it to them and then addressed the invite to them and guest.
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Stephanie · on December 26, 2019 at 9:51 AM
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I am sending mine to the one person if they are single and if they are a MARRIED couple then I will address to both.
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Elizabeth · on December 28, 2019 at 4:03 AM
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I would leave "and guest" for the invites; only address to both if they're married or the like. My cousin's STDs just came in and it was addressed just to me, not me and my fiancé. We weren't offended at all; the second guest seems more appropriate for invites unless they're married. It's also easier to address the STDs without worrying about it!
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Catherine · on December 30, 2019 at 1:39 PM
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For save the dates just address it to the one person. i mean if they live together you could put both. but i only did the one - some people got upset thinking their s/o wasn't invited but i added them on the invitations lol so just keep it simple for the STD and formal for the invites. like Mr. John Smith and Guest. Miss Jane Doe & Guest. Mr. And Mrs. Smith.
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Tanyia · on December 30, 2019 at 3:14 PM
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Use "and guest" if you want the option to invite a guest. Do not if you don't -- Just address it to whom you want to come.
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Laura · on December 30, 2019 at 5:12 PM
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Save the Dates are understood to be preliminary - the actual invitation specifies who all is invited. You can't know all that info so early on... I sent them to the family member or friend we are connected to... So his guy friends got them addressed to them only. If they are married we did Mr. and Mrs. But really, just get them out. lol!

They are really only supposed to say this date, in this city and state... All the details come later.
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