Save the dates

Are you going to send two sets of invitations? One for ceremony plus reception and one for reception only?

View Quoted Comment Yes I am!!

I wouldn't invite people to just the reception anyway. Super rude.

Just to the dance (with no dinner), no formal invite. I would do a facebook invite or email. If you mean to the reception with dinner, then yeah you could totally do two separate invites! That's what I'm doing anyways

View Quoted Comment How is that rude?

Also to clarify I'm asking if I send save the dates to people I am just inviting to the reception. Not talking about the actual invites

View Quoted Comment Unless you’re only inviting immediate family (parents, siblings, grandparents) to the ceremony, it’s rude to have separate guest lists for ceremony and reception. And I surely wouldn’t exclude people from dinner, the part you actually have to pay for, and invite them to dance.

View Quoted Comment I want a more intimate ceremony with just family but I want my friends at the party. I think its petty that some people would think that's rude lol it's my wedding. I've been invited to plenty of receptions or just dances and not the ceremony. Never once got butt hurt about it. Was thankful I was thought of. It's not about "you" anyway. It's that person's wedding and what they want goes. My feelings shouldnt even have to be considered.

View Quoted Comment You’re right. Not considering your friends and family’s feelings is a great way of hosting.

I'm invited to two dances of weddings next month and never once thought "wow how rude that they only invited me to part of it" like come on people get over yourself if you do that.. you're making it about you then and it shouldnt be. Maybe that person cant afford to invite all their friends to the reception but want them their to celebrate. Or the church doesnt fit everyone. Or maybe they want it more intimate. Whatever the reason it's no ones business and no one should complain. That's what's rude.

I've never heard of inviting someone just to dance, that seems SUPER rude.