Save the dates

What do you mean by just the dance portion? Are you planning on having a tiered reception? If that is the case, then you will offend a lot of people.

There is no way to invite people to reception or dance only without offending them Cut your guest listvto accommodate all guests for both events and send save the dates to those people.

Are they only being invited to the reception?

I would think yes because save the dates are a way of informing your guests months in advance about when your wedding will be. It gives them time to plan and arrange their schedule

You're having a separate list for people only coming to the reception? Are they aware they're only invited to this portion? I would think they would since everyone needs time to prepare, just be sure you're careful about how you word the invites.

If you're going to do that, I wouldn't send the reception folks an actual save the date. You should send them a "We're Married!" or "Reception" kind of thing at the same time you send out your save the dates to the others. So you would be looking at two different types to send out.

If I received a save the date, I would assume I'm going to be invited to the ceremony and reception (i.e., all wedding day festivities).

View Quoted Comment I thought this was more of a common thing to be honest? I have been invited to weddings before but just for the dance?

I guess I didn’t realize how uncommon it is? Maybe it’s a Midwest thing? Or Wisconsin thing? I have been invited to weddings before for just for the dance? (Normally it’s a coworker, or family member I’m not super close with).

View Quoted Comment It's a Canadian thing for sure. Just because something is done regionally does not mean people won't be offended by it.

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I've heard it happening outside of the US but not in the US. I don't think it's THAT common, but if that's what your family/friends are used to then maybe they won't be offended by it!

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It's definitely not common where I have lived. But setting that aside, if these are people you are not that close with, then there can be practical reasons not to send them save the dates. If you need to change your plans later (and we have ALL seen that is something that can happen) or your relationship changes between now and next year (very common with coworkers), it will be so much easier to be flexible if you haven't already invited these people.

I would be wildly offended if I got a dance-only or reception-only invite and I wouldn't go.


But no, don't send them save the dates. If you insist on inviting them, do it closer to the date