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Save the dates

Ash, on November 20, 2020 at 2:20 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 19
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Are Save The Dates completely necessary??

We are trying to save money anywhere we can, hence the question. We have already announced our date officially on our socials and we are of course sending out invitations 6 weeks prior. I was thinking of sending "e-save the dates" to people individually also. We also don't want to send them and then have to eliminate guests due to covid. Opinions?? Are we being cheap/rude?


Latest activity by Florida Marlins, on November 24, 2020 at 5:24 PM
  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa Online ·
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    I think Save The Dates are optional, especially if you've already announced the date. Emailing them would be fine as well!
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine Online ·
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    I think e-save the dates are fine because save the dates are completely optional. I say go for it!

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  • Shelly
    Rockstar January 2022
    Shelly ·
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    A virtual option is just fine! Nothing cheap or rude about that IMO

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  • Nicole
    Dedicated September 2021
    Nicole ·
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    I definitely think it’s optional. My planner advised us to send save the dates six months out and regular invites 3-4 months, but said send out your invites slightly earlier if not doing the saves.
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  • J
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    Judith ·
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    They were only invented around ****. Do what people did before that and most still do for mostly local weddings. Those few who need info in advance, like for travel, call or email or mail with other things. The rest, call or email or tell, we are sending invitations in the month of whatever, for our wedding (details.). Those who need no advance notice, send their invitation to arrive at 8 weeks.
    I agree, better to not repeatedly send and correct them for a rescheduled event. Word of mouth, phone calls, email, letters.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    No, physical ones are not necessary. Electronic ones are just fine.
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  • Corrin
    Dedicated October 2021
    Corrin ·
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    I'm skipping them too.

    After I created a mock up of invitations and realized how expensive they were, I figured there was no way I was also going to spend money on save the dates!

    Instead, l just told everyone the expected date when I asked them for their address. I also figure I'll send the invitations out a little earlier - probably around 8 weeks to give people who forgot about the date a little more time to book stuff.

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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I skipped save the dates entirely. i just told people what the date was ahah

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  • Rhiamae
    Rockstar February 2021
    Rhiamae ·
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    Save the dates are optional, you could do an e-vite in place of them to save some money, just a warning that this really depends on your crowd, if you have a lot of older people that don't really use technology all to much, e-vites are probably not the way to go.

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  • Meghan
    Rockstar October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    Nope, not necessary. If you decide to forgo save the dates, including electronic ones, I would just send your invites out closer to the 8 week mark.
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  • M
    VIP October 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Just make a phone call or text but make sure that your guestlist is final before you do. Once it's sent you can't uninvite them.
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  • Jaclyn
    Dedicated December 2021
    Jaclyn ·
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    I also skipped on the save the dates. I'm just gonna send an e-vite to them so they know the date and then just send out the invitations when the time comes.

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  • L
    Beginner April 2021
    Lauren ·
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    I skipped them as well and sent my invites out 4 months prior.
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  • Llcool_Kay
    Devoted July 2021
    Llcool_Kay ·
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    We aren’t sending save the dates just in case we need to cut the guest list due to covid. We also want to save money where we can. And we’ve announced our date to the people we really want there. Especially our out of town guests.
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  • Madison
    Savvy March 2021
    Madison ·
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    We did virtual save the dates - just created something on Canva and emailed it out. We received great feedback from guests!
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  • K
    Dedicated January 2021
    Kimberly ·
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    Yes. Life is busy at least in NY. You want people to pencil you in with enough notice
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  • Jessica
    Dedicated February 2021
    Jessica ·
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    Save the dates are very inexpensive and you could always do a post card save the date from the place you were engaged.
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  • Cassidy
    VIP October 2017
    Cassidy ·
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    I always think that you should send them to people who will need to make arrangements to travel to your wedding.

    Locally, I don't know if they're needed.

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  • Florida Marlins
    Expert October 2017
    Florida Marlins ·
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    Totally optional and remember - once you send a STD it is as good as an invite. We did not use them.

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