Save the Dates - whoops!

Are you haveing a super formal or causal wedding i personally dont think anyone will care about the name thing. and as for the other it should be common since about that but you could always put it on ur wedding website "keep an eye out in the mail around blank date you'll be getting another envelope from us!"

Save the Dates are an intrinsically informal communication . They are simply a notice of a coming event. Before doing the invitation, decide on the formality of the event. You need not follow very formal rules on spelling things out on invitations, or using formal names, when the wedding is not formal. Those rules go with engraved invitations, plain quality stock with embossed borders and such, not colored printed ones, for example. And the most formal gowns, black tie or white tie, etc. A gathering in a church or venue, with most guests in long dresses or cocktail wear, not ballgowns and tuxes, without waitstaff in uniform black and white, a live band for classical music or ballroom dancing, and using colored printed invitations ( not engraved) is only semi-formal at most. You should use people's titles. But may use both man's and woman's names, not Mr. and Mrs. John. Thus, using the titles and names they go by every day, not the formal convention of Mr. and Mrs. His. And less formal ones may dispense with "four o'clock in the afternoon" type spelled out formal words. It is good that doing this has made you think about how formal you want the actual invitation to be. But the casual Save does not matter. On your website, post that the Saves were for information and planning purposes, and actual formal invitations will follow in _____.

I didnt do formal invitation to follow. It ended up working out. Should be fine

People generally know that an invitation is to follow a save the date so I think it is unnecessary to include that on them so I don't think it is a big deal that yours doesn't include it. As for the envelopes, the way you address them should match the level of formality of your wedding. If you are having a formal wedding then Mr. and Mrs. is appropriate otherwise just first and last name is fine. Since you already addressed some I wouldn't worry about those, but I would address the rest to match your formality.

I think it's fine to leave as is

I think you're fine! You could add a blurb on your website that says invites to follow if youre super concerned, but like PP said, most people know that this isnt the actual invite!

It's totally fine, we did not include "invitation to follow" either and no issues. I think most people understand if they receive a save the date and invitation will follow.

I think they are fine!!!! I sent out my daughter bday invitations WITH OUR WEDDING DATE instead of the party date 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 talk about wedding brain LMAO

Minor stuff. Guests will know when they get the actual invite

I'm not even bring formal with my wedding invites. Its just not us. So I think that's fine.

It should be fine as long as you aren't having a super formal wedding!


Our save the dates do not have "formal invitation to follow" on them either

Thank you everyone for your advice and encouragement! I feel so much better!

View Quoted Comment I really like that idea - I think we will do something along those lines! Thank you!

View Quoted Comment LOL that is hilarious! Thanks for sharing that! Haha

We didn't put formal invitation to follow or our website information on our STDs. Nor did either of the other couples we are sharing the year with. No worries!

To me, these are very minor "whoops" moments, that most people won't notice or give a second thought to.

Most people understand the concept of STDs, meaning a formal invitation will follow. If anyone asks, tell them just that, the formal invitation will be coming closer to the wedding.

I forgot the same thing. I was kicking myself for a while, until my FH pointed out that as long as guests do what the card says, and "save the date", then mission accomplished!!

Im just commenting because you live in my neck of the woods. Im not too far from Lodi, Tracy over here. Small world.