Okay so we’re getting married on May 20th 2023, is it too late to send save the dates or should I just do invites? Half of our family needs to travel from PA to TN. Also when should I send the invites ?
We were only engaged ~6 months and didn't do STDs. Just a waste of paper and money in my opinion. I would just spread the word to family and friends who are invited when you talk to them, or via text or email. You could also do an E-vite type STD if you wanted something a little more specific than an email.
Save the dates are frequently sent by word of mouth via phone call or text. Some people say that word of mouth is not a valid save the date but that is how many people send them because they don’t do postcards. They are sent 6-12 months before the wedding as soon as the venue is booked (and guest list is set in stone before you look for venues). They are sent to all invited guests. They are followed up automatically at 6-8 weeks on the dot with the invitations.