My fiance and I planned to get married in Sept 2020, and due to covid we moved the wedding to Sept 2021. We sent out save the dates in 2020 as a New Year card in 2020. And with covid, we had sent out change the dates also in 2020.
I have one cousin, who has extremely different political and racial beliefs than me and my fiance. My fiance and I are liberal, however we respect people who do have differences of opinions of us. This one cousin specifically is popular on Twitter, has gone on several TV shows such as Tucker Carlson, and has continued to spread lies, misinformation, and has tweeted out several tweets that are racist, homophobic, and just outright inappropriate. Our values and beliefs could not be more opposite of hers, and it has gotten to a point where the thought of her at my wedding literally makes my blood boil.
We haven't sent out formal invites yet, and only sent out save the dates and change the dates which she was included in (my parents choice not mine). But what I have seen and heard come out of her mouth for the past year and a half have just been disgusting a foul, and even though we have not sent out formal invites yet, I do not want her at my wedding.
Since she was included in save and change the dates, I do not know how to proceed after this. We do not have a relationship really, and only see each other at major life events (weddings and funerals).
Is it completely uncalled for to uninvite her? Or is it uninviting if we never sent out formal invites? I feel like it still needs to be addressed since she was included in save and change the dates. But both my fiance and myself are extremely uncomfortable with her being there. Help?