Save the Dates - close and out of town guests

Send them out at the same time. Even if they are in the country/local, they would still appreciate the advance notice to make sure to prioritize your wedding over something else in their schedule.

I would just send them all around 9 months out. I personally would want to avoid someone receiving their save the date calling up someone who hasn't received theirs yet and making things awkward.

Send them all at the same time. I sent ours and the 11 month mark.

View Quoted Comment

I am not worried about someone in Germany calling someone in my small town to discuss the wedding. That isn't a concern but I understand your sentiment, thank you!

View Quoted Comment

Sending them out so early was not an issue for the in town guests? I've read etiquette for non destination weddings is around 6 months time. Also I just assume 11 months is enough time for guests across the world. Perhaps my logic is wrong. But if someone was inviting me to a wedding in France, I'd want a years notice or so of the date. I may be over thinking it all.

I would send them out all at the same time.

How many out-of-country guests do you have? I would assume they are all close family members or close friends - otherwise they probably won't fly around the globe for a wedding (especially not in this pandemic that probably still sticks around for a while). So, I would just tell them your wedding date personally and that you would love for them to come if they can arrange it. Once it's time you can send them an official save the date (or only the invitation). I mean, all my close friends and my parents and siblings knew my wedding date and that they were invited before it was time to send out anything official (but of course they still got an official invitation).

View Quoted Comment

I travel a lot. And still hardly ever am I able to commit/plan for anything that far in advance. For me six months would be totally enough for me.

Maybe it's different for people who don't travel much. But how many non-traveling international guests would you have?

Also, in Europe people get a lot more vacation days (we have 30 per year in Germany - that is six weeks plus public holidays :-D), makes traveling definitely easier.

I also let all the etiquette advise on the internet drive me a little crazy. But honestly, I don't know why we make it so complicated. Most wedding guests will be friends and family you know well and communicate regularly with (at least I would think so), so I wouldn't overthink it.

View Quoted Comment You are absolutely right about all of this!!! Spot on! I was making this too difficult in my head! Thank you for the logical perspective I needed.

Send them all at the same time! One and done.

Our wedding is for Jan. 2022 and we're sending STD's out in March! We have family living in different states & countries as well, which is why we're giving them around 10 months to prepare!