Hey Hey yall. I'm long winded and get side tracked easily so try to stay with me LOL. So we were planning a surprise wedding. It was going to be disguised as a proposal party turned engagement party. Only 50 ppl, our closest family and friends, now due to COVID 50 is the max anyway. We were never worried about ppl not showing up because well, the bulk of ppl invited just show up to all our functions and wouldn't want to not be apart of this. There's abt 4 or 5 ppl who would be iffy but we decided, oh well if they can't make it.
Anyway, original plan- tell parents, grandparents, and bridal party a week or two prior. Current situation- I went dress shopping by myself and realized this isn't gonna work, not just me and the sales associate deciding on a dress lol- took mom and FMIL to brunch and spilled the beans. Both of them were like hell naw to the surprise, especially FMIL, apparently everyone on their side needs to know lol but honestly that's only like 6 people.
Really the bulk of the guestlist is my family and friends technically, but he's closer to my male family than I am, and he's real cool with my girlfriends' sig others. (more background story- we've been together 20 years, this is not a joining of families type thing, we've all been family!) Anyway, moms said invitations are absolutely going out.
Ok so today is October 9th. The wedding is January 2nd. We took "engagement photos" last weekend and just received them yesterday. I want to do magnet save the dates just because I think they're cute and want them on ppl's fridge lol So my question is, should I just send the save the dates with the invitations? Or should I still send the save the dates first? And like I mentioned earlier, ppl deciding whether or not they're going to come is not really an issue. Everyone is here (NY) and in Massachusetts and like I said, come to everything! I threw my son an impromptu bday bbq last weekend and my Massachusetts family was mad that they didn't get an invite. Like they really would have just drove down here for that (we're 3 hours away).
Oh and if I didn't make it clear, no one knows about the wedding except our parents and 1 of my sister's, nor does anyone know we plan to get married anytime soon, so it's not a situation like when ppl already know a couple is engaged when they get a save the date. Whatever they receive in the mail is going to be a total surprise, be it just the save the date or an invitation and save the date together. The current invitation I chose reflects the "surprise" factor and the save the dates I chose are regular. But if I send the save the dates first, instead of with the invite, I would make the save the date reflect "surprise" and choose more traditional invitations.
Did I explain that enough? Thank you in advance to everyone who took the time to read this cuz I'm sure there was a way to explain all that in a shorter paragraph but I just don't have the capability LOL
