Save The Date

Make sure that your guest list is 100% set in stone. 6 months out is standard for save the dates. Next month or following will be too late. Be aware that once you send them, you must send an invite as well.


With alot of people postponing to 2021, you need to get a photographer booked asap. Between that and cater/venue, you're all set. You can pick up flowers and cake at the grocery store.
Your other option is to ask your venue if you can postpone to a later date.

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Thank you, Michelle! I think we will just have to work on the list and get it out to the important friends and family who will be guaranteed invited and go from there. I'm going to put photographer priority on our list right now so we have that booked.

Thankfully our venue is a catering company as well so our deposit can go towards the food worst case and he said we can always change the date if anything else is available. Their prices also went up, so not sure if the rate we got will be locked in.

Thank you for all the feedback, this has been very helpful!

You will need to start finding other vendors and dress ASAP!

Experts have already stated large gatherings won’t be happening until at least fall 2021. I would probably only send save the dates to a small select few right now probably < 50 and wait until Feb - March to send the rest if things happen to be looking up.

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Thank you! Think I'm going to try and knock a lot of this out this month.

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It's sad, we both come from large families and it's going to be tough cutting people out, but we will go over the guest list and see what we can do. Is this for every state? I'm in Southern California where it's one of the worst states right now, so I wouldn't be surprised. Might have to talk to my FH about the possibility of postponing

That's a good idea to get the important ones sent and wait until later for the rest if things do open. Thank you!

I would start finding other vendors and get back on track for planning. Book your engagement shoot and order your save the dates.

Follow the checklist on this platform. Book other vendors.

Totally agree with everyone! Get those other venders booked & send out those STDs ASAP! I have a large family (his side not so much), he’s a firefighter and I work at a hospital. With our family, our fire family & our friends, we’re looking at around 250+ for our wedding. We cut the list & cut some more. Even had to make the decision of no children to keep the #’s low. Our guest list is around 90 but we’re starting a Plan B in case we have to cut more.

View Quoted Comment Correct; it’s for the nation. And yes, it’s very difficult, we get it!

I would contact the venue about the guest count and then send save the dates. Initially our venue had a minimum spend. Currently in my state, we are not allowed to have indoor gatherings over 25. The venue said if regulations have not been lifted then we can either move the date, they will remove the minimum spend or cancel. If we go back in to Phase 3 they won’t allow us to cancel but we can have a reduced minimum spend and/or move the date. For reference we are getting married in May 2021 (hopefully without too many restrictions 🤞🏻).


With that being said, I would see what your venue says and then send save the dates ASAP. Maybe make an “A List” and “B List” of guests. Who you will invite if your A List says no. Just make sure they aren’t in the same group of friends. We put co-workers on our B-List for expect an invite but you won’t miss if they aren’t able to attend! Just don’t send them save the dates if you aren’t planning to invite right away.

You need to start hiring vendors (especially photographer) and order your dress ASAP! They recommend ordering your gown a minimum of 10 months before you wedding to ensure it arrives in time for you to get alterations one. Also, with several 2020 brides postponing to 2021, most vendors will already be booked.

Just because a lot of businesses are closed right now due to Covid does not mean they won’t answer emails, phone calls, or do zoom meetings.

As someone who has had to postpone twice, plan as if the vaccine will here and everyone will take it by your date. Both times I made the call to postpone about a month out. Lots of vendors are getting booked for 2021, so I would say get back into it! Have fun dress shopping! (The nice part about a lot of the shops having guest limits: there are less opinions about what dress to get!)