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Elizabeth
Just Said Yes July 2021

Save The Date

Elizabeth, on December 2, 2020 at 5:26 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 13
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Hi there!

We had finally set our date this past summer for our wedding to be 7/4/2021 and so far we only have the venue/catering booked and I've done nothing else.

When we originally set the date we figured to send Save the Dates around this time to give people enough time since our wedding will be on a Holiday (4th of July) I wanted us to take Engagement Photos and use that photo on the Save the Dates, but we haven't even started on that. With things shut down I myself shut down and stopped doing any planning because I'm not sure what's going to happen. I want to start getting back into the flow of things and at least start looking for a dress and reaching out to some vendors.

I'm really hoping everything will start opening up again early next year and maybe we will have more time since our date is July 2021. When we booked we needed a min guest count of 180, so we had planned to have about 180-200 people attending. I'm worried that even if I send out Save the Dates in the next month or two I don't want to send all those people a save the date if I can't even have them attend the wedding and we have to cut back the guest list. Any advice on what to do?

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Latest activity by Jennifer, on December 4, 2020 at 2:05 PM
  • Michelle
    Master October 2022
    Michelle Online ·
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    Make sure that your guest list is 100% set in stone. 6 months out is standard for save the dates. Next month or following will be too late. Be aware that once you send them, you must send an invite as well.


    With alot of people postponing to 2021, you need to get a photographer booked asap. Between that and cater/venue, you're all set. You can pick up flowers and cake at the grocery store.
    Your other option is to ask your venue if you can postpone to a later date.
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  • Elizabeth
    Just Said Yes July 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    Thank you, Michelle! I think we will just have to work on the list and get it out to the important friends and family who will be guaranteed invited and go from there. I'm going to put photographer priority on our list right now so we have that booked.

    Thankfully our venue is a catering company as well so our deposit can go towards the food worst case and he said we can always change the date if anything else is available. Their prices also went up, so not sure if the rate we got will be locked in.

    Thank you for all the feedback, this has been very helpful!

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  • Natalie
    Expert November 2020
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    You will need to start finding other vendors and dress ASAP!
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  • A
    Super September 2020
    Alli ·
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    Experts have already stated large gatherings won’t be happening until at least fall 2021. I would probably only send save the dates to a small select few right now probably < 50 and wait until Feb - March to send the rest if things happen to be looking up.
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  • Elizabeth
    Just Said Yes July 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    Thank you! Think I'm going to try and knock a lot of this out this month.

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  • Elizabeth
    Just Said Yes July 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    It's sad, we both come from large families and it's going to be tough cutting people out, but we will go over the guest list and see what we can do. Is this for every state? I'm in Southern California where it's one of the worst states right now, so I wouldn't be surprised. Might have to talk to my FH about the possibility of postponing Smiley sad

    That's a good idea to get the important ones sent and wait until later for the rest if things do open. Thank you!

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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
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    I would start finding other vendors and get back on track for planning. Book your engagement shoot and order your save the dates.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    Follow the checklist on this platform. Book other vendors.
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  • Michelle
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    Michelle ·
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    Totally agree with everyone! Get those other venders booked & send out those STDs ASAP! I have a large family (his side not so much), he’s a firefighter and I work at a hospital. With our family, our fire family & our friends, we’re looking at around 250+ for our wedding. We cut the list & cut some more. Even had to make the decision of no children to keep the #’s low. Our guest list is around 90 but we’re starting a Plan B in case we have to cut more.
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  • A
    Super September 2020
    Alli ·
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    Correct; it’s for the nation. And yes, it’s very difficult, we get it!
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  • K
    Savvy May 2021
    Kj21 ·
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    I would contact the venue about the guest count and then send save the dates. Initially our venue had a minimum spend. Currently in my state, we are not allowed to have indoor gatherings over 25. The venue said if regulations have not been lifted then we can either move the date, they will remove the minimum spend or cancel. If we go back in to Phase 3 they won’t allow us to cancel but we can have a reduced minimum spend and/or move the date. For reference we are getting married in May 2021 (hopefully without too many restrictions 🤞🏻).


    With that being said, I would see what your venue says and then send save the dates ASAP. Maybe make an “A List” and “B List” of guests. Who you will invite if your A List says no. Just make sure they aren’t in the same group of friends. We put co-workers on our B-List for expect an invite but you won’t miss if they aren’t able to attend! Just don’t send them save the dates if you aren’t planning to invite right away.
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  • Meghan
    Rockstar October 2019
    Meghan Online ·
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    You need to start hiring vendors (especially photographer) and order your dress ASAP! They recommend ordering your gown a minimum of 10 months before you wedding to ensure it arrives in time for you to get alterations one. Also, with several 2020 brides postponing to 2021, most vendors will already be booked.

    Just because a lot of businesses are closed right now due to Covid does not mean they won’t answer emails, phone calls, or do zoom meetings.

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  • Jennifer
    Rockstar August 2021
    Jennifer ·
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    As someone who has had to postpone twice, plan as if the vaccine will here and everyone will take it by your date. Both times I made the call to postpone about a month out. Lots of vendors are getting booked for 2021, so I would say get back into it! Have fun dress shopping! (The nice part about a lot of the shops having guest limits: there are less opinions about what dress to get!)
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