Save The Date

Do you mean save the date?

I'm confused, why would you send the RSVP in March if you haven't sent them the invites yet? Invites and RSVP's are generally sent together 6-8 weeks before the wedding.

Yes, it is wrong. No one knows for sure if they can attend an event that's a year away. Even if they think they definitely can't make it because of a trip or some other event, plans change. This is why RSVPs are sent much closer to the wedding, with the invitation. Even if you do try to have people RSVP now, you're going to get so few for sure no's that it's not going to save you much money, if any.

Are you referring to Save the Dates?

Yes I meant Save the date. Sorry I was in a rush this morning....lol. Admin can you please change header to Save the Date please

Everyone who gets a STD need to receive an invitation & rsvp. Just because they think they can’t come when they receive the STD doesn’t mean things won’t change once they get the formal invite several months later. Also, invitations are typically sent 6-8 weeks before the wedding.

No I think it's a great idea. I'm definitely doing that and if u dont R.S.V.P. by the date given then ur not welcomed even if u come ur not in it's just that simple🙃

Yeah, you have to send the invite even if they’ve told you they have already booked another trip that week and can’t come. But, you can use that info to add any other people you didn’t think you had room for. Just be careful. Occasionally people change their minds.

My FH did that...he asked his family members, since for them, its a destination wedding, if they think they could make it before any STDs went out. It was his call and he knows his family better than I do. It may be another know your crowd thing. Different strokes for different folks.

2 of the weddings we are going to next year asked for a "tentative RSVP" with their save-the-dates. This is because they were both destination weddings and they needed to plan accommodations for guests around numbers. I think it's fine- but just know that people's answers could change over time.

That being said, if I received a save-the-date and already knew for certain I couldn't attend I would absolutely let the bride/groom know right away. That way, they wouldn't need to send me an invite and could use my "spot" for someone else. Not sure if other guests do this though.

Everyone you send a save the date to should receive an invitation as plans change. Some people might think they can make or can't make, but things happen that change those plans.

This isn’t going to work out how you think it will. We sent save the dates 7 months before and closed the RSVP option on our website until invites went out. We had people book hotel rooms as soon as they received a save the date and then ended up RSVPing no. We also had people verbally tell us they couldn’t attend and then were able to. I would stick to the traditional timeline and save yourself the headache.

I think it's odd to ask people super early, before the invite RSVP, if they can make it or not. Their answers may change.

I feel like this will cause to much confusion.

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We changed that for you!

I had someone tell me before save the dates were sent that they couldn't make it, but now she can! Also, i sent a save the date to another friend, but she let me know on her own that her white coat ceremony is the same day, so she will not be able to make it. What I'll do is reach out before i order invites to confirm that she is still not coming! If people can't come, they will tell you on their own!