Save the date via Facebook?

You mean through FB messenger?

Save the dates are optional. I wouldn't post too much on social media though, you'll get a lot of people who assume they're invited.

I sent mail STDs. I only wanted those invited to know the date, and also I know some people who dont use FB frequently or at all, so I chose mail so I know there wouldnt be the chance someone inadvertently wouldnt have a heads about the wedding.

Natalie- we are intending to create an private/secret event on Facebook and send the save the dates via that.

I think its up to you. we are doing Save the Dates as magnets because we figure people will remember better if they see them every day I get nervous that things come and go on the feed and get missed or forgotten.

I was thinking about making a event to post info about the wedding ( such as our hotel block and other small touches)

Plus we got engagement pictures included in our package and my cousin does graphic designing and printing so we got a good deal on that

Big mistake. If you want a hurricane of wedding drama, use FB. Typically, it brings you more issues than you can solve.

Secondly, STDs, even via US Mail, can be problematic. STDs are not necessary, but if you're sold on them, send them to OOT guests six to eight months before the wedding.

We didn't do save the dates just mailed invites out a little early since it's a destination wedding. Seems to have worked well. I have about 10 RSVP's I'm waiting on and the deadline is 6/17. Happy Planning!

Yvette- I love the idea of sending them a little earlier. My family runs on late time so the sooner they get them the better the chance they return them.

I didn't use them, we only have 3 out of town guests and they're my close friends, it was a lot easier/cheaper to just take care of that via phone call.

If you do a FB thing it most certainly should be private. I'm not 100% how private groups work on there...can people request to join it? Would that be awkward for you?

STDs are optional, from what I've seen they are only usually encouraged for DWs or to send to OOT guests so they can make travel arrangements. If you don't want to send STDs out, I personally would not make a FB group or event, if your situation is not applicable to the aforementioned. If you do have OOT guests and it isn't a DW, you can always buy a small number of cards (postcards are rather inexpensive!) to send out or call the OOT intended invitees. Or like a PP said, send out the invites a few weeks earlier. The usual range is 6-8 weeks with a small buffer before your final headcount is due. Maybe 10-12 weeks would be better for your situation?

I sent my save the dates out about a year in advance but I'm having a DW in Mexico and wanted to give enough notice. We also created a private Facebook group for all those invited after we learned that the post office had covered over the wedding website that had all the booking information.

What about guests who don't use Facebook?

If you're using facebook, definitely do a secret group or secret event. That way, nobody can see it unless they're invited to it. And I don't mean private, I mean SECRET. Make sure you double check that option before making it

I would skip facebook. If you'd like to send Save the Dates but don't want to pay for them, there is an online service with free electronic ones. that look really nice.

Never use FB for wedding announcements. Either mail the STDs or don't send them at all would be my preference.

We created a private event like this and it has worked fine so far. However I am having about 40 paper ones made for family and other people who don't have Facebook.

Could you do a paperless post instead? I think that is a lot classier than a Fb event and is not expensive at all. I'm UO but I love receiving paper save the dates and think they are completely necessary, especially for OOT guests who need to arrange travel. If you only send them to OOT guests it is inevitable that a local guest finds out about them and assumes they are not invited. Also, with something where everyone can see your guest list, expect people to ask why you aren't inviting so and so. I am getting that with my bachelorette and imagine it would be much worse with a larger amount of people.

We're doing a FB Save the Date. For us, we really don't mind the casual feel of it because that's the sort of vibe we're going for anyways - for example, there's going to be a late night bonfire and our food is from a food truck. We're thinking of it as a big party with a bunch of our favorite people. We made the event private and so that guests couldn't invite people so our other friends don't get offended if we can't invite them because they won't be able to see the event. And our list can't grow into something massive from guests inviting other randos. Plus this way we could send a message to all guests and gather their addresses for the paper invites we'll mail out. Plus it sends them a reminder on their phone closer to the event, and we can post any updates in it. And really, if other people have a problem with it we don't really mind. It's our wedding/our money, anyways.

We are deciding to do our STDs on a Private Facebook Group and then get a handful of paper ones for people that don't use Facebook and the more old school ones! how did you guys make your online STDs and how did they turn out??