Hi everyone!
I have a question about Save the Dates. My FH designed them and is super excited to hand them out to his family. I know STDs are usually sent out around a year at the very earliest for destination weddings (which ours will be for his family), but FH is dying to do it now. I love seeing him so excited about it, but I'm worried that it's just way too soon. Tradition in Spain is to hand-deliver invitations instead of mailing them, so he wanted to do it on Three Kings Day in January (when Spaniards exchange holiday gifts). That will mark 18 months until our wedding.
I don't love the idea of raining on FH's parade and trying to make him wait until the summer to hand them out, but is it considered rude to deliver STDs earlier than normal? Save the Dates aren't a thing in Spain, so his family won't necessarily know that they're usually sent out much later. Honestly I'll probably have to explain to them that they're not the real invitation anyway!
We'll also be having a second celebration back in FH's hometown in Spain for the family that inevitably won't make it to the US. We have a Save the Date for that event, too, which we were going to include in the same envelope as the US STDs for convenience. But handing out STDs for an event that's local to his family a year and a half in advance certainly is outrageously early.
Anyway, my question boils down to whether this is something worth trying to change FH's mind about. We'd only be handing the STDs out to his family for now, and they'd end up learning the official dates for the two events in a few weeks anyway, regardless of whether we hand the STDs out now or later. Does it really matter if we do it early? (For the record, US guests won't be getting STDs until next fall, when I'm hopefully able to go back to the US.)
Thanks in advance for any input!
