Save the date - social media

I did not tell anyone the date unless they asked, and if they weren't invited, I only told them the month and year

I wouldn't.. I don't post anything about my wedding on social media

If you share wedding details on social media you are going to have so many people texting/messaging/assuming they are invited. Just wait to send out paper STDs

Agree that sharing such information on social media will just cause you more problems in the long run

I shared my date on social media. But not like announcing it. I just made the hashtag **** or "can't wait for February 17 2018" with a pic of FH and I. I know people assume its our wedding, but its not as blunt as "FYI our wedding is 2-17-18" which could be confusing and open the door for people to ask if they're invited.

I would not post pics or my STD on social media. Even the pics open up comments of "Can't wait to attend your wedding". Very awkward if the person is not invited

You can post engagement pictures without posting your wedding date. I wouldn't put the date on social media.

You can do whatever you want, but why does all of FB have to know?

I wouldn't do it because people you may not be inviting may ask questions.

The pictures are fine, but showing the save the date to people who aren't supposed to actually save the date is rude.

We went to a light festival the other weekend and wrote it on the lantern above his football "wish" and I pointed at the wedding date and he the football and we started laughing so it's a cute photo... I just wasn't sure if that was too much. I mean I don't intend on using SM as a way to tell people, I guess I was just asking for that picture in particular which has the date written and then for this coming Friday saying "a year to go" or something. Are things like that less inclined for drama etc? Or the picture still a no go?

The less you advertise the better off you are and less people inviting themselves and putting you in an awkward position!

Why do you need to post the date???

You can post pics without the date. My FMIL posted our date in the comments, which whatever but at least it wasn't me posting our date. I had someone post their STD to save money and I thought it was okay. A little tacky but I never assumed I was invited but there's several people who would just assume they're invited.

The less FB knows, the less frustrated posts we see on Wedding wire about random people asking if they're attending the wedding.

Around a year to the wedding, we created a private FB group for the wedding. We only put family (the definitely invited ones) in it at first and slowly have been adding people as we finalize our guest list. Our reasoning wasn't so much as a save the date, but because most people will be traveling to Florida for it and the wedding is at a busy time of the year for the beach. We just posted the hotel/travel info there and encouraged folks to make hotel reservations sooner than later if they planned on going. It has worked out for us and we will send the formal invites out later. Other family (non-FB folks) were told informally about the hotel reservations via phone or email. We also wanted to make sure that people who need a lot of time to either request off of work or save travel money would have the opportunity.

That being said, we did not put out a social media save the date where people who are not invited would see.

We posted a few engagement pics, but we didn't post our date. When people have asked, I've told them, and honestly I haven't gotten any "I can't wait" statements from anyone who was not invited, but maybe we just got lucky.

I would say it is still a no. You don't want to rub it in people's face if they aren't invited or even potentially lead someone to expect to be invited.