Brianna
Just Said Yes October 2021

Save the date, send them or not

Brianna, on March 12, 2021 at 8:37 PM Posted in Planning 0 24
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My FH and I are debating on sending out save the dates. We are trying to save as much money without being crazy cheap. Our date is October 8 and we’ve had a lot of family members talking with people so most people know our dates expect for a few family members from out of town. What have your experiences been with sending out save the dates versus not sending them out??

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Latest activity by Monique, on March 20, 2021 at 10:26 PM
  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    You could always send electronic save the dates for free! I always think that sending out save the dates is a good idea

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  • R
    Dedicated September 2021
    RY ·
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    Have you thought of digital save the dates? Just so people have the date cleared for your wedding! You can easily make one at https://www.paperlesspost.com which is what my friend used and I'm considering for mine!

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  • Katie
    Savvy October 2021
    Katie ·
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    We sent out electronic save the dates using paperless post! Saved us sooo much money, time and paper 😊
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  • Jay
    Devoted September 2021
    Jay ·
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    We debated a lot on this & landed on no, although to be honest it was largely because of COVID (we’re still looking at a 25% reduction of our guest list). Happy to save the money & not worry about bailing on people who expect to be invited but can’t be!
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I skipped them! You could just do electronic ones to save $
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  • Monique
    Devoted June 2022
    Monique ·
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    We can understand that so we are having 50 ppl and we have to cut down to 40 I'm ok with that
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  • K
    Beginner July 2022
    Kelly ·
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    We sent out save-the-dates to our "A-List" (family, and really close friends only).

    I cheaped out on save-the-dates and got them at Costco. They come out to be $16 for a set of 25 or if you choose a design with gold foil it is $25 for 25.

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
    Michelle Online ·
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    Send out postcards or texts as long as you let them know 6 months ahead

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  • Fred
    Expert April 2022
    Fred ·
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    I agree with those who'suggest the digital version and for those who are not comfortable with the internet, you can just call them or meet them in person before your "deadline".
    You have the right tobe a" crazy cheap" bride since most weddings are expensive and the wedding industry make us feel like we have to buy or rent this or hat whereas it's totally pointless when you think about it (especially fancy stationery stuff . You don't even have to justify anything to anyone other than your partner.
    Good luck.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    STDs aren’t mandatory. Do digital to save some $$$.
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  • J
    Master 0000
    Judith ·
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    Many folks don't realize STD are a very recent invention. It is fine to fo what everyone used to do, and a lot still do, and make a phone call or send an email to anyone who needs to know more than 8 weeks before, from usual invitations. Actual STD are not necessary. For e mail, copy the same message if you want, but individually address them, not a blast , so they don't disappear into spam filters.
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  • C
    Just Said Yes July 2021
    Cecilia ·
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    I bought a cute animated save the date on Etsy last night and sent it via text today. Definitely looked more than $10 😉. My wedding is in four months. I’ll mail the formal invite in 2 months.
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  • Ashley
    Expert October 2021
    Ashley ·
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    I could take or leave save the dates honestly. I guess it really depends on how many people you’re inviting, and who’s going to need to travel to attend. Personally I did them (twice, since I postponed from 2020,) and it was more because I’m lazy and didn’t want to have to manage anyone lol
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  • Devoted June 2021
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    You could always do electronic as it was already stated. PaperlessPost allows you to make some beautiful ones. And if you haven’t already done so, just send one save the date per household to save money. My fh and I only ended up sending 18 in total, but we also have a smaller guests list. Electronic May work best if your family is anything like me and my fh who will not visit a url they have to manually type in. On PaperlessPost you’ll be able to insert the link and it will take them right to your website from the invite/save the date.
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  • Allison
    Just Said Yes September 2021
    Allison ·
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    Paperless Post! Beautiful options and you can send them for very low cost if not for free!

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  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    We did digital save the dates because many of our guests live out of town and we wanted to give them a chance to book hotel rooms. Otherwise not necessary
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  • Cheyenne
    Savvy October 2022
    Cheyenne ·
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    I made a Facebook event and invited everyone from there. I only sent about 10 paper invites to close family and friends for memories.
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  • C
    Rockstar January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    You can find free templates on line or create one in a word document and print them at an office store. I printed mine at Staples and It was less than $10 for 40. Plus envelopes but I used the same box for our return RSVP. If you do them postcard style you can skip the envelope and use a cheaper stamp 😊
    There is no need to do the “fancy” ones you find on line to order. Be creative and think outside the box, it will help you save money. But also an electronic one would work I’d just worry about it getting lost, going to junk mail, etc and people not seeing it. I know I get so much junk email things get lost in my inbox. You can also spread your date by word of mouth. I which ever route you choose I think it is important to let people k one of your date ahead of time that way they can work their plans around your dates (vacations, holidays, etc)
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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
    Kari ·
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    We got email addresses for everyone on our guest list and sent a virtual Save the Dates first go round. We did send a few physical STDs to family only, because some of our older family members use email infrequently and we knew they'd be excited to put something on their fridge. Doing virtual STDs saved us money and was really easy. Having all of the email addresses also came in handy when we had to change plans because of Covid - we were able to keep all of our guests updated easily and inexpensively, and didn't have to pay extra to send cancelation stationary (which would have been salt in the wound).

    I do think you should notify guests formally in some way, whether through a physical card in the mail or just a more elegantly designed virtual invite that is sent via email. I don't think you need to spend money to do it though, and not sending physical STDs is an easy way to minimize your wedding expenses without sacrificing from the experience at all.

    We are trying to replan a wedding celebration for this year (we eloped, but never had any sort of real event around getting married). Because the Covid situation is constantly evolving, we will likely skip STDs or send a "Let's Try this Again" email 2-4 months out (instead of the typical 6 months out), just because I feel like we likely won't know if we can actually go through with a party until a month or two beforehand.

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  • Nakia
    Beginner October 2022
    Nakia ·
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    I’m not there yet since my date is 10/8/22, but I plan on sending out an evite for save the date. It’s free, looks nice, and gets the word out!
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