My FH and I are debating on sending out save the dates. We are trying to save as much money without being crazy cheap. Our date is October 8 and we’ve had a lot of family members talking with people so most people know our dates expect for a few family members from out of town. What have your experiences been with sending out save the dates versus not sending them out??
Have you thought of digital save the dates? Just so people have the date cleared for your wedding! You can easily make one at https://www.paperlesspost.com which is what my friend used and I'm considering for mine!
We debated a lot on this & landed on no, although to be honest it was largely because of COVID (we’re still looking at a 25% reduction of our guest list). Happy to save the money & not worry about bailing on people who expect to be invited but can’t be!
Send out postcards or texts as long as you let them know 6 months ahead
I agree with those who'suggest the digital version and for those who are not comfortable with the internet, you can just call them or meet them in person before your "deadline". You have the right tobe a" crazy cheap" bride since most weddings are expensive and the wedding industry make us feel like we have to buy or rent this or hat whereas it's totally pointless when you think about it (especially fancy stationery stuff . You don't even have to justify anything to anyone other than your partner. Good luck.
Many folks don't realize STD are a very recent invention. It is fine to fo what everyone used to do, and a lot still do, and make a phone call or send an email to anyone who needs to know more than 8 weeks before, from usual invitations. Actual STD are not necessary. For e mail, copy the same message if you want, but individually address them, not a blast , so they don't disappear into spam filters.
I could take or leave save the dates honestly. I guess it really depends on how many people you’re inviting, and who’s going to need to travel to attend. Personally I did them (twice, since I postponed from 2020,) and it was more because I’m lazy and didn’t want to have to manage anyone lol
You could always do electronic as it was already stated. PaperlessPost allows you to make some beautiful ones. And if you haven’t already done so, just send one save the date per household to save money. My fh and I only ended up sending 18 in total, but we also have a smaller guests list. Electronic May work best if your family is anything like me and my fh who will not visit a url they have to manually type in. On PaperlessPost you’ll be able to insert the link and it will take them right to your website from the invite/save the date.
You can find free templates on line or create one in a word document and print them at an office store. I printed mine at Staples and It was less than $10 for 40. Plus envelopes but I used the same box for our return RSVP. If you do them postcard style you can skip the envelope and use a cheaper stamp 😊 There is no need to do the “fancy” ones you find on line to order. Be creative and think outside the box, it will help you save money. But also an electronic one would work I’d just worry about it getting lost, going to junk mail, etc and people not seeing it. I know I get so much junk email things get lost in my inbox. You can also spread your date by word of mouth. I which ever route you choose I think it is important to let people k one of your date ahead of time that way they can work their plans around your dates (vacations, holidays, etc)
We got email addresses for everyone on our guest list and sent a virtual Save the Dates first go round. We did send a few physical STDs to family only, because some of our older family members use email infrequently and we knew they'd be excited to put something on their fridge. Doing virtual STDs saved us money and was really easy. Having all of the email addresses also came in handy when we had to change plans because of Covid - we were able to keep all of our guests updated easily and inexpensively, and didn't have to pay extra to send cancelation stationary (which would have been salt in the wound).
I do think you should notify guests formally in some way, whether through a physical card in the mail or just a more elegantly designed virtual invite that is sent via email. I don't think you need to spend money to do it though, and not sending physical STDs is an easy way to minimize your wedding expenses without sacrificing from the experience at all. We are trying to replan a wedding celebration for this year (we eloped, but never had any sort of real event around getting married). Because the Covid situation is constantly evolving, we will likely skip STDs or send a "Let's Try this Again" email 2-4 months out (instead of the typical 6 months out), just because I feel like we likely won't know if we can actually go through with a party until a month or two beforehand.