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Just Said Yes June 2016

Save the Date Return address etiquette

EPR, on September 29, 2015 at 1:07 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9

My fiance and I currently live together, and although my parents are paying for most of the wedding, the two of us are managing all stationery. Whose name should we put on the return labels invitations/Save the Dates? Currently I have:

The [groom's last name]s.

My parents are now worried that it sounds like we're already married and this is just a reception. They are also likely worried that our more conservative guests would frown upon our living together before marriage.

My name is too long to write out our whole names together. other options are:

[Bride's first name] & [Groom's first name]

[Bride's Last name] & [Groom's last name]

We've already printed the cards and they've been delivered to us. The question is, should we bother reprinting with one of the above or put something else entirely? Do people really even look at the return label or is it really just used for the benefit of the Post Office?

9 Comments

Latest activity by alietta, on September 29, 2015 at 7:32 PM
  • beautyofdreams
    VIP August 2016
    beautyofdreams ·
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    Im tagging in to read responses. I'm in a similar situation. I already live with my fiance. My parents nor guests will care that we live together but I'm not sure what to put as our return address. If I put his last name it does sound like we are already married. My name and his name is way to long. I think the using first names is the easiest but it also sounds so informal....Do you think it would be cute to put the The Future __________ and then your address?

    Example:

    The Future Williams

    5555 Hamilton Road

    Chicago, IL 12345

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  • EatKnitRun
    Master May 2016
    EatKnitRun ·
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    I just ordered a stamp that has our first names only plus our address. We live together.

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  • AthenaKay
    Master June 2015
    AthenaKay ·
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    You already live together, and I'm guessing it's not a secret. So I wouldn't worry about your "conservative guests" frowning down upon you.

    We did:

    DH's first name & my first name

    Address

    C,S,Z

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    Just Said Yes June 2016
    EPR ·
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    I agree with beauty of dreams that just our first names seems too informal. Plus the front of the two-sided post card says

    Save the date

    Bride's first name

    &

    Groom's first name

    Date of wedding

    so it's almost too repetitive to do it that way.

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  • Kimpy
    Super May 2016
    Kimpy ·
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    I think the most important part of the return address is for the post office. I had a few return to me for wrong addresses. I have been living with FH for over a year, so I made the labels have each first initial with corresponding last name.

    M. GroomLast & K. BrideLast

    Address

    Address

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    If they've already been printed and delivered then I'd say to keep it as is, so you don't have to pay to have the return envelopes reprinted. If you do want to pay to have them re-printed, then I would just designate 1 person on the return address - either you or FH!

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  • Frugal Gator
    Master May 2016
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    We don't live together but still did our first names because I haven't decided yet if I'm changing my last name. I disagree that first names are too informal because save-the-dates are, by definition, informal. I kinda understand where your parents are coming from, people will read too much into anything, but I wouldn't reprint them. If you have address labels, you could just put those over the return address. Otherwise, I wouldn't worry.

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  • Lbee59
    Super June 2016
    Lbee59 ·
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    We live together, so i put our first names then our address

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  • alietta
    Expert March 2016
    alietta ·
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    I am using postcards, so I had to make my return address label really small so it is just our first names. On the invites I will probably put each of our first and last names. I don't think it's too big of a deal to keep it the way it is. I doubt many will notice, and if conservative people have an issue- do you care?

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