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Kara4533
Savvy May 2020

Save the Date Please!

Kara4533, on January 3, 2020 at 4:42 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 12

My fiance and I have been engaged a little over a year. We started planning early so that "I" wouldn't be too stress as the time gets closer and we could have time to pay for everything without using credit cards or taking out loans. Well, we are a little over 4 months away and I am not too stressed and everything is about 90% paid (no credit cards or loans - yes!) Here's where I am a little salty:

My sister, who is in the wedding, text me a couple of days ago and said she was putting her time in and wanted to know when the wedding was. I was disappointed because not only are you in the wedding but I also provided you with a save the date card. I mean, Memorial Day weekend should be easy to remember? I have 5 other siblings, 12 older nieces and nephews, my mom, her daughter, etc., that she could have asked instead of me. I just felt some type of way about it. I didn't respond and two days later, she text me the same thing. She had just spoken with my other sister and her daughter. I finally told her the date but that was it. Am I being silly about this?


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Latest activity by Kara4533, on January 3, 2020 at 5:28 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Yes, you're being silly. She was likely at work an didn't have the save the date in front of her. This wedding is the center of your world right now, not hers. And some people just aren't good at remembering dates. This really is not a big deal.

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  • N
    VIP September 2020
    Neeva ·
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    A little silly but I get the feeling. When we are so focused on our own weddings it's hard to imagine how other people feel but honestly our weddings don't matter that much to them which is a bit sad but understandable. I would just tell her the dates and move on, she will be there so that's what matters!

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  • Kara4533
    Savvy May 2020
    Kara4533 ·
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    I gave her the date and didn't say anything. I just felt she could have ask our mom or anyone of our siblings instead of me.

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  • Kara4533
    Savvy May 2020
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    No she was at home and we had just talked about the wedding on Christmas. My other siblings were saying how Memorial Day was great since they would be off on Monday. The sister I am referring to, remembers dates well as she sent me a shout out on Facebook on the anniversary of my engagement. I'm not going to make it a big deal but my feeling were a little hurt.


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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    I mean I get why it’s annoying that she had to ask but sounds like she’s just being a little flaky. Look at it this way, she IS taking time off work for your wedding and just wanted to confirm she took the right days!
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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    I think based on this and the other post you are starting to experience wedding stress. Whenever you coordinate anything people are going to do little things to stress you out. I have to coordinate graduation at my high school and even though I sent out and post a timeline early in the year, do you know how often I get asked by teachers,parents and students"when is graduation?" LOL It is just silliness on others but do not let any of this stress you because you do not want to snap on someone and cause pre wedding drama.

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  • Kara4533
    Savvy May 2020
    Kara4533 ·
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    Thanks, I appreciate that.

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  • Kara4533
    Savvy May 2020
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    Yea you are right.

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  • Alejandra
    Super November 2021
    Alejandra ·
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    Why would she ask someone else when she can just ask the person who would 100% know the date? Lol. If I had to double check the date (like PP said, she likely didn’t have the STD with her at work) she wanted to double check with the bride the exact date of the wedding. If she had asked your mom or someone else and they had given her an incorrect date, I’m sure you would have been grumpy that she didn’t just ask you. My MOH also texted me asking me for the date to ask off at her job, which I thought was sweet of her to plan ahead. It’s not a big deal.
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  • Kara4533
    Savvy May 2020
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    Yeah... she was at home when she asked and we were all together for Christmas and discussed the wedding. She is also in the wedding. I would not have been upset if she ask one of my siblings. If she wasn't my sister, I would totally get it. My mom knows the exact date as well as all of my siblings. I did give her the date and didn't say a word to her about how I felt. I just felt that from the 1st time she text me to the 2nd time, she could have ask another sibling, since she speaks to her everyday. I was in my feelings because when I am given and accept an invitation to an event, I put it on my calendar and plan for it. Especially the host/hostess need a head count, I thin its only appropriate. That's just me and I have to remember everyone is not me.

    I appreciate your feedback though. I am still not going to say anything to her about it and I have let it go.

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  • Alejandra
    Super November 2021
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    Like you said everyone is different. I have an anxiety and have to double and triple and quadruple check everything. I would definitely ask the bride for the date if I was in the wedding just to make absolutely sure. Not saying that’s what happened with your sister, but just another point of view. It’s okay to be annoyed by it but try to not let it spoil anything.
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  • Kara4533
    Savvy May 2020
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    I'm not. I am so excited about my upcoming nuptials and there is nothing that can spoil it. I honestly believe my sister is happy for me.

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