Save the Date of Former Moh's Sister

This pandemic has sort of put a lot of confusion and leaving things up in the air with difficult decisions to make. I just wanted to reach out to get an opinion on some thoughts.



There is a post that I have made months ago about losing my childhood friend (23 years)/ MOH and things have not changed. Just to summarize, we got into an argument around my birthday when she cancelled out on dinner and was in the process of moving out due to a break up with her ex. I have attempted to reach out in support and offered her a place to stay for as long as she needed so she wouldn't have to feel forced to immediately make a decision of what to do next. She accepted and canceled multiple times, canceled bday but was still able to get together with her other friends or co-workers during this difficult time. I was just tired of feeling like I was being put last on things and this has been going on for a while. It wasn't perfect timing but I honestly was getting tired of it and stood up for myself. We couldn't agree to disagree without still holding anger. She did have the option to be in the wedding but she backed out twice. I figured that we may have grown apart but maybe we could be mutual. She checked in a while ago to see how things were going, I responded but didn't lead into further coversation and she randomly blocked me afterwards. She was asked by her sister to also be her MOH. During this argument, the groomsman informed me on how she has mentioned to him that she wasn't not going to be a good MOH for my wedding because her sister's wedding comes first. It made sense, but no reason to equally try to be a good MOH for both weddings. I did ask my cousin to step up in also be a MOH since she has highly been involved from the start and could release some pressure on my friend. I did not know that she stated she was not going to be a bad MOH prior to asking my cousin to also take on the role.
At the start of this pandemic, her sister has messaged me and questioned on any change of plans for the wedding since we are on the same boat. I have provided my opinion and advice that I thought would be helpful and it was all a positive conversation. I did not mention anything to her about the argument that I am in with her sister, my concerntation was on helping and being supportive towards her during this difficult time. After a few days, I have briefly mentioned to her that I was planning to elope and wished her good luck in whatever she plans on doing. My wedding is in August and her wedding is in July. She hasn't provided any further updates or reached out to me since then. I did recieved save the date from her and this is when me and her sister were not arguing. I figured that I may or may not continue to be invited due to the situation. I was not planning on inviting my former MOH or friend's family to mines as I have originally planned. In this case, I completely understand. I would think an update probably would have been nice, whether she decided to continue with a small wedding with family or not or plan to elope. There is no invitation and her original planned date is less than a month away. Should I still send something to congrats her? A card, flowers or something small?