Save-the-date but no invite yet...

Since you received a STD and have booked flights I would ask. It was most likely an oversight or it got lost in the mail.

It seems very early for them to be sending out invites in July but I would Ask them since it’s been 3 weeks since ur family got theirs. The postal service sucks and it could have been lost in the mail. Either way it’s good to know what’s going on. Do they ha d a wedding website with online rsvp? U could type ur name in and see if it pops up before reaching out.

Hey, Katherine!

Like the other comments have said, I'd go ahead and reach out! It's family, you got the STD and the flights are booked, so there's no shame in asking! Invitations typically go out 6-8 weeks before the wedding so it does seems early for some people to have received them already, but you won't know unless you ask!

You can reach out but they probably won't send actual invites till September or October. I found it weird that etiquette says to wait so close till the wedding day to send invites so we nixed the norm and sent them in June for our Sept 1 wedding but many people tend to wait longer. Reach out if it will make you feel better since you've spent money.

I was under the impression that Save The Dates went to anyone you wanted to know you were getting married but invites were just for the people attending....

View Quoted Comment Save the dates only go to people you are actually invited to the wedding. It’s just a way to get your date and location out earlier so people can book travel arrangements. It’s very rude to send a save the date and not invite them to the wedding.

View Quoted Comment Good to know!

Its a little early for the invites to go out

Definitely reach out. It may make it a tad more awkward to reach out to one of their parents or someone else close to them. We sent our invitations recently and have had a ton of them come back and a few people mention they haven’t gotten them. We didn’t have issues with save the dates so I don’t know if it’s a post office glitch or what but I’ve been super thankful of people reaching out so that we can rectify the situation

I think it’s still early for invites... I’m getting married Oct8th and although they probably should have gone out a week or so ago I’m sending mine out this weekend

I would say it's too early for invites except for that your dad already received one. I would definitely reach out since you've already booked travel arrangements.

Thanks everyone! I did get over my awkwardness and reached out. They were super nice, looks like the invite just got lost in the mail.

Definitely ask. I know it feels awkward but if you got a save the date you should be getting an invitation. Even just a casual text wondering when invited would be sent so you can keep an eye out is fine. It does seem very early for invites to be sent out already for a Novemeber wedding. Was it the save the date your dad received or the actual invite?

They still have plenty of time to send them out, dont stress

I agree! Reach out and see since you’ve made arrangements. Is it possible that they had to cut the guest list due to some budget issues? Or that you may be getting B listed?

Another possibility is that they sent yours and it was returned, so they are resending it. We sent ours in early July and have still been getting a handful returned for one reason or another.