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Saturday Breakfast Options

kimbo, on February 13, 2017 at 4:21 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4

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We are having a Thursday rehearsal dinner for BP only and a Friday evening wedding. Our initial plan was to invite EVERYONE (regardless of hotel stay) to a breakfast (vouchers provided by hotel) at the hotel where the block is Saturday morning. However, the room seats 80, and initially the guest list was at 90. Now, the hotel gives us the option of using the room for the entirety of their breakfast hours (7am-11am) so not everyone would typically go to eat at the same time, so the hotel convinced us that between declines and the range of hours, we'd be fine for space.

However, we thought we would limit our guest to 9-11am (as in, not tell them they can come eat at any time) to help make it more of a "breakfast with the bride and groom" event. And our guest list has now become 120 (which is 40 above the room limit).

So now I need other options! Cont'd in comments.

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Latest activity by PandaInLove, on February 14, 2017 at 10:25 AM

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kimbo · on February 13, 2017 at 4:22 PM
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My ideas are as follows:

A. Change the breakfast invite to only those staying at the hotel. However, I know FH’s immediate family will not stay at the hotel, so do I give certain VIP’s extra vouchers?

B. Open the hours back up, but then instead of it being an additional wedding event, it changes the vibe to, here’s a voucher to have breakfast on us.

C. Hope we have enough declines to keep the plan as is (I don’t like this for risk of not having a seat for every butt).

D. Scrap the plan entirely. I signed a contract with the venue but did not have to put any deposit down. I may still be able to get out of this if I cancel early enough, though I would have to look into it.

Has anyone else done a breakfast like this? Do you remember your rate of declines? The other part I am worried about is that our hotel with room blocks is right next to another hotel. If we run out of blocked rooms, or the hotel runs out of rooms people might be staying next door. Plus, next door is also $20 cheaper per night, so people might stay next door anyway so then they wouldn’t get the vouchers.

I really wanted to do the breakfast to extend the festivities, esp because two of my sisters and their families are travelling from out of country.

Any other suggestions?
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kimbo · on February 14, 2017 at 9:45 AM
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Morning bump?

Has anyone ever done the breakfast next day thing and have some advice to offer?

I've really taken over the planning of this wedding so when my mom and FH each added 10 people, I don't think they realized I had this plan in place with room for 80 people. I see my mom and MOH this weekend so I'll see if they have any ideas before going to the hotel to see what they think.
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Riya · on February 14, 2017 at 10:14 AM
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I think B because its a nice gesture to offer people a breakfast.
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PandaInLove · on February 14, 2017 at 10:25 AM
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With the wedding occurring Friday evening, your wedding festivities would be finished at that point. Everyone who came out to your wedding, regardless of whether they are staying at the hotel or not, would have attended your wedding event in its entirety. What they do after the event is up to them. I think it's definitely a great gesture to offer breakfast vouchers, especially to the guests staying in the hotel, but I wouldn't think you would need to expect every guest who attended your wedding to attend a breakfast the day after. My sister had a hotel wedding in Virginia Beach and about 150 guests. She got breakfast vouchers for the hotel's breakfast and provided them to all wedding guests, but they were in no way obligated to go to breakfast.

I say give everyone vouchers but don't expect everyone to show. The wedding event will be over the night before and your guests may have plans for traveling back home or otherwise for the morning after.
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