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Cynthia
Super October 2016

Sand ceremony process, please help?

Cynthia, on September 22, 2016 at 12:25 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12

FH and I will be a blended family of eight(we have three kids each) after we marry. All of our kids are in the wedding and will participate in the "sand ceremony".

We will be using a picture frame as our vessel; I have the following questions:

1. with eight people pour, shouldn't we have some sort of music playing?

- if so, do you have any song suggestions?

2. are we required to fill the vessel; or is this just a symbolic act and it's only necessary to fill it partially

3. Logistically speaking (I could be wrong) eight people around a vessel pour sand at once is a mess waiting to happen, any suggestion on how we should do this.

ie: two kids as a time, or what?

It feels good having all the big stuff taken care of, but these little things are starting to drive me crazy.

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Latest activity by Jessica450, on September 23, 2016 at 5:23 PM
  • Cynthia
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    Cynthia ·
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    FIVE STARS - HOT DAMN!

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  • Nancy Taussig
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    3. Those frames have a tiny slot and a tiny funnel. I usually have the B&G pour together first. Then I have the kids start pouring, oldest first, working the way down to the youngest.

    2. I'd fill the frame so it packs tighter -- especially if you'll each use a different color.

    1. Skip the music so the guests can hear what everyone is saying (at least one of the kids is bound to say something funny).

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  • MoweryMe
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    I would share a link with you, but my internet is being sucky right now.

    But YouTube search, "Sand Ceremony" and you'll come up with ideas and "tutorials."

    1--yes, you need a song. Make it a special song that means something to FH and yourself.

    2--we are filling our vessel to the top because we don't want the sand getting all messed up en route to our home.

    3--I've seen it done where everyone does it one at a time.

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  • MoweryMe
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    Congrats on the 5 stars :-)

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  • Cynthia
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    @NancyT - at least one of the kids is bound to say something funny - My children are characters, what they can say is scary.

    @HisPwincess - Thanks for the search recommendation.

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  • Celia Milton
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    Skip the music; your officiant will be talking and in my experience, cueing music during the ceremony never quite works out.

    I had a sand ceremony with 8 grandkids and the couple on Saturday. They all poured together, it was a freaking mess, but it was great. Life is messy, right?

    And I tell my couples to give it a shake every year, so the pattern evolves as their family does.

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  • Cynthia
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    @Celia Milton - Yes, life is messy. :0)

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  • Soon to be Mrs.Desautel
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    I'm doin the same thing it's a family sand ceremony my officiant told me how it goes it will be me n FH pour half of our sand in together then each of our children come up one at a time n pour their color sand in then me n FH pour the rest of ours on top of the children's once they are done and then the officiant pours a color on top of a the family sand representing God n he is and will always be with our family n the center of it

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  • FutureMrsDjTimmy
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    I love it idea of using an hour glass for this but damn they are pricy

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  • Cynthia
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    @FutureMrsDjTimmy - Have you tried Hobby Lobby, the have a 50% sale on their wedding supplies a few times a month. Not sure if they have the hour glass, but it's worth a shot.

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  • Celia Milton
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    No hobby lobby please. Michaels has sand in two departments (floral and kids crafts) and you can find the hourglass on line.

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  • Jessica450
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    I got a mason jar which we poured our sand into off ETSY. It was beautiful. Now we played music during ours as I didn't want the officiant talking during the pouring of the sand. I also only had me the husband and my son so it was alot easier lol. What we did is we all 3 went to the table after the ring exchange and then the officiant talked about what the sand ceremony was about and at that time my then FH said some vows to my son and once that was done the officiant said something to que us to start pouring and the DJ played our song. We went slow enough to take up most of the song. We used "From this moment on' by Shania Twain.

    It might help if you used a rectangle table so it wasn't cluttered and just pass the frame or what ever you use down the table as each of you pour.

    Good luck!

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