Same venue as Sister in Law!?

Look at this way. You may be at the same venue but it won't be the same. Your theme, colors, decor, music, etc., will be yours as long as you don't let them in on the planning.

Maybe I should mention that our styles are similar... really similar, and it is a full service event space.

Well hey, at least your guests will know where to go! LOL sorry... ok seriously, I don't think its all that bad... maybe just do a little something different... like out do theirs or just switch up the style and make it your own and unique... I don't know, just brain storming.... >.<

I think i would be a little upset because they knew thats were you wanted to have your wedding and reception. But, I will have to say that I have to agree with everyone else just out do theirs whatever they do, do the opposite make it 1000x's better than theres.

I agree with Anita. There's not much to do at this point if they really can't find anywhere else to get married. You will get the chance to learn from their mistakes and make your wedding better than theirs, too (if we want to be petty, which I probably would in that same situation).

Wow that sucks, id be upset to. I dont blame you....Is there any other place that you like that you can keep a secret and not tell anyone or was that the only place that you want? I am sorry it sounds like the girl is jealous over you and is "competing" dont let it get to u...and just like anita said...if you still want to keep your venue, go out and beyond what they do.. example : candy bar...etc... or decorate different inside..(thats if you absolutely still keep the venue u found)..i am sorry about your Future sister in law..

Sorry.... That is a bummer. I will say that I got married at a location (some family friends have several very lovely acres and are generous with letting people get married there) where several people who are in the same circle got married. I know my guest list overlapped a bit here and there, and I had attended a wedding there as well as stopped in to see one being set up. Each one of us used the space in such different ways! I don't think the guests that were at more than one wedding there felt they were at similar events at all. While I know you want the experience to be just yours, you will have the opportunity to be at a wedding there, and be able to see what you don't want to have at yours. You can see what works and what doesn't, and be creative in thinking of ways to use the space in different ways. Sorry you feel bummed, and I understand....but I think you'll be surprised at how different your wedding will feel. Good luck!

My own sister decided to book my venue for her small (20 people) wedding, months after I booked the venue. I was slightly upset for about a day but then I got over it. Honestly, it's your wedding....no matter how similar your styles are, it will be different. There isn't anything you can do about it so no point in getting upset. You'll only let it ruin all the fun that planning is! If it really matters that much, then keep looking at other venues! Like Demi said, at least some guests will know where to go! I know I'm excited about that part! My venue is in the country on some back roads and my sister made it easy for some of my guests You just have to look at the positive side of things! Good luck

I wonder how it turned out my son and his step sister are now having same problem he got engaged first having a long engagement however him and his fiancé picked the venue even gave a deposit already his step sister got engaged a month ago she wants to get married this December five months before my son and she secreatly booked the same venue this has caused a mess because there will be family overlapping and she feels entitled because she is getting married first. This has caused a huge division between my husband and I because it's his daughter taking my sons venue and my sons fiancé is very upset. I see several comments say make it different but if taste is similar it is very difficult to make it different. Also now going forward they are not speaking to each other my husband is taking his daughters side and this is causing heartache. This is not ok who does this ??

I wonder how it turned out my son and his step sister are now having same problem he got engaged first having a long engagement however him and his fiancé picked the venue even gave a deposit already his step sister got engaged a month ago she wants to get married this December five months before my son and she secreatly booked the same venue this has caused a mess because there will be family overlapping and she feels entitled because she is getting married first. This has caused a huge division between my husband and I because it's his daughter taking my sons venue and my sons fiancé is very upset. I see several comments say make it different but if taste is similar it is very difficult to make it different. Also now going forward they are not speaking to each other my husband is taking his daughters side and this is causing heartache. This is not ok who does this ??

View Quoted Comment I don’t know how someone could choose the same venue. It’s disturbing really especially since she knew. I told my mom about a venue I LOVED,I was so excited and then I found out my older sister chose and booked the venue before I even decided on a date. Years of abuse and then this. It broke my heart to be honest so if they wanted to get me they did. It still stings years later and I have yet to choose a new venue. I had a newborn when my sister got married and she wouldn’t allow me to bring her. Needless to say we don’t have much of a relationship and I will never trust either of them. I guess that’s the lesson to be learned in all of this...

My sister got engaged a year after me and then had her wedding before me. She even used some of my decorations that I had already bought for my big day. I wouldn’t be upset, no one will be comparing your weddings, they’ll just be excited for the Union!